Narcissist: A Complete Guide for Dealing with Narcissism and Creating the Life You Want

There is no documented, scientifically based information in this book - some lightly referenced but no actual references or footnotes provided - it is simply one woman’s rant based on her personal experience. It approaches the subject mostly from the perspective of a romantic relationship, as hers must have been, rather than giving a holistic and thorough view of relationships between empathy and narcissistic in every other context (family, work relationships) - instead only briefly mentioning them here and there. She jumps all over the place and there is no logic between the flow of the chapters. She gives advice for how to heal without basing it on research or giving any how-to, just a bland “go do this.” Finally, there are plenty of run on sentences, and the lack of proper editing in self-published works is what give them a bad rap.

Could not put this book down. It was like Judy Dryer was talking to me alone! Such adaptable solutions to problems. She knows the mind of a narcissistic! So helpful for me. I finally experienced HOPE after finishing reading this book!

A must read for anyone who have had a narcissist in their family.

This book opened my eyes.....

Pros: This book will introduce you to the definition of a narcissist. It is very informative and scientific at first and seems to not be applicable in the beginning. Then, the second and following chapters will begin to spark significant interest. For instance, the trauma that the victims endure is unbelievable. I watched a documentary about a narcissistic artist that displayed all of the terrible behaviors described. I found myself wondering why the victims stayed and allowed themselves to be a part of the abuse for so long. Then, the author goes into detail about the different types of narcissism. What an eye-opening chapter. I began to look at people that were in my life in the past and present. I noticed a lot, if not all, of the signs of narcissism as well. The chapter that revealed a lot for me was the workplace narcissist. I've been sabotaged and questioned and doubted a lot of the traits of this character. Thank goodness I no longer work with that person, but now I know the characteristics. Without revealing too much more, this book is more than a must-read. It is the epitome of how to recognize someone with mental health issues. It is a book about how to overcome people in your life that is narcissistic. Lastly, this book encourages you to recognize a narcissist and to do something about it, even if that narcissist is you! Cons: None! Get it and put it in your arsenal. This book is a must! I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

I received an ARC copy of this book for review, and I found myself frequently distracted by typos and errors in the text. Having dated a few narcissists, I was immediately drawn to this book. I am an empath, and I have learned from Dyer's book that people like me frequently become the victims of narcissists. My innate drive to nurture and to care for others makes me a prime target for narcissists, who prey on those who are easily manipulated. In addition to examining how narcissists control sexual relationships, the author also examines how narcissistic parents impact their children's development. There is a lot of constructive advice under the heading of "Protective Strategy" with helpful "how to" tips on how to tackle particular situations when dealing with a narcissist. Having experienced this first-hand, I know that having a book like this in my library would have been exceedingly helpful and would have likely prevented a lot of confrontations. Unfortunately, the book has a very unfinished vibe. This goes beyond my initial statement about the typos. The book reads like a collection of scattered thoughts. The best way that I can describe this is to compare it to a term paper that a student has put off until the night before the due date; it hits all the points it endeavors to cover, but it does so in an unpolished and rushed manner. There are examples of people who have supposedly struggled with narcissists in their lives, but there are no quotes or other facts to actually substantiate these stories. They sound as if they have been made up on the spot. Knowing that this author is not a psychologist, I was not expecting a scientific examination of narcissism, but I was at least expecting a book with sound, factual analysis. I have read better-cited Thought Catalog articles. I cannot recommend this book under these circumstances.

As someone who spent close to 15 years with a narcissist, I can say without any hesitation that this book very accurately portrays both the narcissist and his/her "victims." The author does an excellent job providing real world examples to illustrate the concepts being described which helps the reader more fully grasp the info. While an encounter with a narcissist can be devastating to one's psyche, one line in particular helped me to truly understand why I was targeted by my narcissistic ex. This epiphany came when the author pointed out that I wasn't chosen because of a character flaw or weakness on my part, but rather my narcissist chose to go after me because I have such a "giving heart" and therefore would be more likely to feed his diabolic need for admiration and attention. I only wish I knew more about narcissists (and how prevalent they are in society) before I fell prey to one. Reading a book like this one early in my life could've help prevent me from wasting 15 years of my life trying to "help" someone who didn't deserve it. I highly recommend this book to everyone, but especially those of us who tend to be particularly caring, empathetic individuals. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

I'm not as knowledgeable on the topic of Narcissistic Personality Disorder as I would like to be, Judy Dyer's book was a pretty good place to start my learning explorations. I appreciated her introduction to some of the terminology used by the therapeutic community, and her very positive and reassuring approach. I was a bit confused by her alternate characterizations of the narcissist as a pitiable victim of severe personal issues, and and a deliberately heartless manipulator and evildoer. I don't feel as if all my questions have been answered, and I would not agree that her book is "A Complete Guide for Dealing with Narcissism and Creating the Life You Want," but she has given me several topics which I need to explore further. I have a new appreciation for the complexity of NPD, and the extent to which I myself am vulnerable to persons with NPD. Most importantly, I have been given a sane, honest, compassionate look at my own history of personal involvement, which has shaped a good part of my life, and I have also been given hope that it is possible to continue to heal. This is a voluntarily ARC review.

I am not quite sure why, but there seems to have been a spate of books about narcissism lately, and specifically, books that talk about the relationship pattern that a narcissist usually happens to fall into with an empath. I swear it wasn't all that long ago that the term “empath” was used mostly in fantasy games and magical speculative fiction. Of course, I have seen it referred to in metaphysical books, but I haven't seen it in psychology works. But I digress. Compared to some books that I've recently seen on this topic, this one seems better written and organized. Still, however, it is a very short book, so the subtitle starting with “a complete guide” is wildly inaccurate. No book this short could be a complete guide to anything. That's not to say that the author doesn't have some interesting insights. In fact, she is one of a few authors who has addressed narcissism in relationships outside of romantic ones. So, it is a short read, but it does offer, I believe, little nuggets of wisdom that could help people who are trapped in the losing side of a narcissistic relationship. I received a free copy of this book, but that did not affect my review.

This was a book that I needed to read. It had insights and reminders for me to stay grounded. A close member of my family is a Narcissist and was mentally abusive for most of my life. Until I decided it was time to cut ties and start healing. This book allowed me to realistically look at my history and stay strong in my needs. If you have a Narcissist in your life, do yourself a favor and read this book. It show you red flags to look for, as well as what to do to stay strong if you cannot avoid the Narcissist in your life. You are not alone, and there are things to help you survive and thrive. I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review, but it being free did not change my feelings about the book.

There is no documented, scientifically based information in this book - some lightly referenced but no actual references or footnotes provided - it is simply one woman’s rant based on her personal experience. It approaches the subject mostly from the perspective of a romantic relationship, as hers must have been, rather than giving a holistic and thorough view of relationships between empathy and narcissistic in every other context (family, work relationships) - instead only briefly mentioning them here and there. She jumps all over the place and there is no logic between the flow of the chapters. She gives advice for how to heal without basing it on research or giving any how-to, just a bland “go do this.” Finally, there are plenty of run on sentences, and the lack of proper editing in self-published works is what give them a bad rap.

Could not put this book down. It was like Judy Dryer was talking to me alone! Such adaptable solutions to problems. She knows the mind of a narcissistic! So helpful for me. I finally experienced HOPE after finishing reading this book!

A must read for anyone who have had a narcissist in their family.

This book opened my eyes.....

Pros: This book will introduce you to the definition of a narcissist. It is very informative and scientific at first and seems to not be applicable in the beginning. Then, the second and following chapters will begin to spark significant interest. For instance, the trauma that the victims endure is unbelievable. I watched a documentary about a narcissistic artist that displayed all of the terrible behaviors described. I found myself wondering why the victims stayed and allowed themselves to be a part of the abuse for so long. Then, the author goes into detail about the different types of narcissism. What an eye-opening chapter. I began to look at people that were in my life in the past and present. I noticed a lot, if not all, of the signs of narcissism as well. The chapter that revealed a lot for me was the workplace narcissist. I've been sabotaged and questioned and doubted a lot of the traits of this character. Thank goodness I no longer work with that person, but now I know the characteristics. Without revealing too much more, this book is more than a must-read. It is the epitome of how to recognize someone with mental health issues. It is a book about how to overcome people in your life that is narcissistic. Lastly, this book encourages you to recognize a narcissist and to do something about it, even if that narcissist is you! Cons: None! Get it and put it in your arsenal. This book is a must! I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

I received an ARC copy of this book for review, and I found myself frequently distracted by typos and errors in the text. Having dated a few narcissists, I was immediately drawn to this book. I am an empath, and I have learned from Dyer's book that people like me frequently become the victims of narcissists. My innate drive to nurture and to care for others makes me a prime target for narcissists, who prey on those who are easily manipulated. In addition to examining how narcissists control sexual relationships, the author also examines how narcissistic parents impact their children's development. There is a lot of constructive advice under the heading of "Protective Strategy" with helpful "how to" tips on how to tackle particular situations when dealing with a narcissist. Having experienced this first-hand, I know that having a book like this in my library would have been exceedingly helpful and would have likely prevented a lot of confrontations. Unfortunately, the book has a very unfinished vibe. This goes beyond my initial statement about the typos. The book reads like a collection of scattered thoughts. The best way that I can describe this is to compare it to a term paper that a student has put off until the night before the due date; it hits all the points it endeavors to cover, but it does so in an unpolished and rushed manner. There are examples of people who have supposedly struggled with narcissists in their lives, but there are no quotes or other facts to actually substantiate these stories. They sound as if they have been made up on the spot. Knowing that this author is not a psychologist, I was not expecting a scientific examination of narcissism, but I was at least expecting a book with sound, factual analysis. I have read better-cited Thought Catalog articles. I cannot recommend this book under these circumstances.

As someone who spent close to 15 years with a narcissist, I can say without any hesitation that this book very accurately portrays both the narcissist and his/her "victims." The author does an excellent job providing real world examples to illustrate the concepts being described which helps the reader more fully grasp the info. While an encounter with a narcissist can be devastating to one's psyche, one line in particular helped me to truly understand why I was targeted by my narcissistic ex. This epiphany came when the author pointed out that I wasn't chosen because of a character flaw or weakness on my part, but rather my narcissist chose to go after me because I have such a "giving heart" and therefore would be more likely to feed his diabolic need for admiration and attention. I only wish I knew more about narcissists (and how prevalent they are in society) before I fell prey to one. Reading a book like this one early in my life could've help prevent me from wasting 15 years of my life trying to "help" someone who didn't deserve it. I highly recommend this book to everyone, but especially those of us who tend to be particularly caring, empathetic individuals. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

I'm not as knowledgeable on the topic of Narcissistic Personality Disorder as I would like to be, Judy Dyer's book was a pretty good place to start my learning explorations. I appreciated her introduction to some of the terminology used by the therapeutic community, and her very positive and reassuring approach. I was a bit confused by her alternate characterizations of the narcissist as a pitiable victim of severe personal issues, and and a deliberately heartless manipulator and evildoer. I don't feel as if all my questions have been answered, and I would not agree that her book is "A Complete Guide for Dealing with Narcissism and Creating the Life You Want," but she has given me several topics which I need to explore further. I have a new appreciation for the complexity of NPD, and the extent to which I myself am vulnerable to persons with NPD. Most importantly, I have been given a sane, honest, compassionate look at my own history of personal involvement, which has shaped a good part of my life, and I have also been given hope that it is possible to continue to heal. This is a voluntarily ARC review.

I am not quite sure why, but there seems to have been a spate of books about narcissism lately, and specifically, books that talk about the relationship pattern that a narcissist usually happens to fall into with an empath. I swear it wasn't all that long ago that the term “empath” was used mostly in fantasy games and magical speculative fiction. Of course, I have seen it referred to in metaphysical books, but I haven't seen it in psychology works. But I digress. Compared to some books that I've recently seen on this topic, this one seems better written and organized. Still, however, it is a very short book, so the subtitle starting with “a complete guide” is wildly inaccurate. No book this short could be a complete guide to anything. That's not to say that the author doesn't have some interesting insights. In fact, she is one of a few authors who has addressed narcissism in relationships outside of romantic ones. So, it is a short read, but it does offer, I believe, little nuggets of wisdom that could help people who are trapped in the losing side of a narcissistic relationship. I received a free copy of this book, but that did not affect my review.

This was a book that I needed to read. It had insights and reminders for me to stay grounded. A close member of my family is a Narcissist and was mentally abusive for most of my life. Until I decided it was time to cut ties and start healing. This book allowed me to realistically look at my history and stay strong in my needs. If you have a Narcissist in your life, do yourself a favor and read this book. It show you red flags to look for, as well as what to do to stay strong if you cannot avoid the Narcissist in your life. You are not alone, and there are things to help you survive and thrive. I received a free copy of this book and am voluntarily leaving a review, but it being free did not change my feelings about the book.

I am not very knowledgeable about narcissism and empaths. Until recently I hadn’t thought of empaths as being “real.” I had mostly came across the term in paranormal and fantasy books. It was actually someone who I now suspect to be a narcissist who told me to read up on empaths. My introduction to narcissist came with the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard case. Though, in hindsight, I suspect I have been in relationships with a narcissist before. This book actually gave me nice introduction to both and how empaths can be targeted by narcissistic people. I found it to be a very interesting read. It gave examples of parents, couples and the workplace. I would have liked a bit more on friendships. As a starting off place though this book is a good selection. I received an ARC of this this book for review consideration through BookSprout. My review is based on my experience reading the book. I am aware an ARC can be sent out before editing, therefore I do not address errors that an editor would correct.

I am an empath and I have a tendency to attract narcissists in personal relationships. But, I wanted to read this book to understand the relationship with one particular person that is a textbook narcissist. This book has reiterated what I have known all along - that she is a narcissist. I will be cutting the psychic cord with her and wishing her peace. Thank you, Judy, for helping me understand more. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

The book was well written and better thought out than many on this topic. My only issue was the insistence by the author that a narcissist must also be insecure. This is an outdated idea that this fact is always true. As someone with long term and very direct and personal experience with more than one narcissist, I know this is not always true. Additionally, there is a great deal of research that now shows not all narcissists are also insecure. The repeating of this information as if it was always fact was very irritating. However, overall the book does offer some good insights outside of this annoying trait, interestingly enough. I would not make this your first or only book on the topic due to this issue I found. But it is worth a read.

I had never considered narcissism as an issue before, and never thought I knew one. After reading this book, my perception shifted and now I believe I have known many narcissists! Yikes! I really enjoyed how Judy lays out what type of person a narcissist is and all the qualities and behaviors included. It was great to learn how to find out how to deal with a supposed narcissist and get out of an ugly situation. In reading this book, I now feel equipped to spot, understand, and either help or get away from a narcissist if needed! Easy to read; a great beginner's guide on the topic.

As someone who has many narcissists in my industry and former company, this book was fascinating in its diagnosing the problem and how to work your way through the relationships. I wish I had this book 10 years ago, as it certainly would have helped my exit with my business partner. I really appreciate that hands-on strategies! I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

by Dmarie I have been researching this issue on the internet but haven't found any information that was this clear and to the point. It helped me understand what I have been dealing with in a personal situation. I would suggest this book to anyone who suspects that a relationship, of any kind, might be toxic to them. Although this book is not a source of diagnostic information (the author makes this clear) it can certainly help one understand things. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

This book is packed with great information, from identifying a narcissist and their behavior, to why their is attraction, and how to break away and detach from the unhealthy relationship and move on. No, you're not crazy. Yes, it is hard to break away. But it can be done. And there is life on the other side. This book equips you with all the information you need, like your best friend walking along side as you work to make a better life for yourself. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

This book gave lots of information on what to look for in a narcissistic individual. The author discussed rhe difference between a narcissist and other individuals with similar traits. The book contained insight about what to watch out for in scenarios where rhe narcissist may have a different relationship to you. Then it delved into what to expect when changing behaviors and gave strategies in order to change the situation for the victim. I wish it was a bit longer and more detailed. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

This is an excellent book on how to identify and deal with a narcissist. Not only does it tell how to recognize a narcissist, it gives a lot of information on why one may be in your life and strategies on how to deal with them. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

This book had some good tips but it seems to be very anecdotal. The author focuses on leaving the narcissist as a singular solution to the problem. It only deals with extreme cases of narcissistic abuse. Some of the tips still apply to milder cases, but there is not much nuance here.

Outstanding book of explaining Narcissism in a clear & concise way. It gives you excellent examples and ways of coping. One has to avoid such persons, not try to change them.

Anyone who has had or think they are in this type of relationship should read this book. Some parts of the book were hard to read. I noticed a grew up in an abusive home, which lead to a cycle of abusive partners in my adulthood.

This book does a good job at defining narcissism and providing ways of dealing with a narcissist. The real world examples provided in this book provide a way of making the book relatable. So check out this book for yourself.

There are some good points but the author makes it seem like men are the main narcissists. There are just as many if not more women who are narcissists. I would of liked this book to be more gender neutral when talking about the narcissist rather than the author Judy always referring to the narcissist as a he/him

This book had help me understand the relationship I was in, it's a life saver, many women dont even know they are in such a mental abusive relationship, so I recommend this book for all women!

Judy Dyer explains in detail what narcissism looks like and the motives behind it. She shows the progression of narcissistic relationships and how this dynamic creates the toxic and harmful environment for its victims. Judy shares insights and practical self help tools for the victims. She gives steps for a way out. If you are unsure of what narcissism is or if you have no idea how to get away, let this book provides a map and guide.

Before reading Judy Dyers book on narcissism I believed the issue was fairly simple. Of course it was simple for me as I have always been even more intelligent than I was good looking. Now I feel that I have a much deeper understanding of the root causes, effects and solutions to narcissistic personalities. This was a great book to give me a heads up with my current as well as future relationships. I’m not sure it helped me out with my own personality though? Now I even feel that much Smarter!

Great content and good techniques for practical application. Concise and ver well articulation on some of the strategies. I received a free copy of this book via Booksprout and am voluntarily leaving a review.

While I found this book to be super informative and easy to relate to in personal life, I feel it was quite brief and written from a very subjective viewpoint. I actually would have wished to see the book written in further detail, be more objective, and contain an increased flow to the content.

This book discusses the many aspects of narcissism. Highly recommended for anyone wanting to learn more about this topic. I enjoyed reading this book.

A clear description. Not too long. Easy read. Will give you the basics to identify them and start breaking free from the control.

Very helpful and insightful.

Patient explanation of the landscape and origins of the condition and the individual cases. Practical and structured guidance on empathetic measures aimed at successful resolution.