It's All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging On, and Finding a Peace You Almost Forgot Was Possible

Jennifer Dukes Lee has control issues, as do many of us, but in addition to those issues, she’s got a killer sense of humor and wisdom that will change your life. So much of this book hit me where I live and gave me the gentle reminder that even though I do things out of love, I need to accept that I am loved and I don’t have to earn it or prove my love in return. The only deficit of this book is that I found myself also seeing my husband in it, and I wished it wasn’t quite so woman-centric, because I’m probably going to ask him to read it anyway. (We’ll see how some of the topics go over!) A few quotes – and really, it’s so hard to pick just a few. My book is glowing with yellow highlights. “…you are not a grape; you do not mature just by existing.” “I live under the false assumption that if I handle everything, I can shield my beloved people from pain.” “But even for those of us with good intentions, our caring can cross over into behavior that makes us miserable, anxious, tired—and probably less pleasant to be around. We even find ourselves annoying.” “I have regretted all the times that my well-meaning “acts of kindness” have made me as pleasant as a rabid porcupine.” “Martha—Okay. You knew she’d be on the list. But can we just stand in solidarity with Martha for a moment? We would have been right in that kitchen with her. How else are people supposed to eat?” “Good intentions get the best of us, don’t they? Eve probably didn’t go into her day with a diabolic item on her to-do list. Prune roses. Check. Feed the goofy-looking animals with really long necks. Check. Take stroll with God around lake. Check. Try out new fruit. Check. Usher sin into world. Check.” “There’s a fine line between unhealthy control and healthy control, and that line is drawn with the pen of good intentions.” “Consider the mental shift that happens when we focus primarily on Jesus’ love for us instead of our love for Jesus. Rather than working to prove our love, we work because Jesus has already proven his love toward us.” “If our relationship to Jesus is our defining one, then every decision—big or little—passes through that filter. So instead of saying yes to prove our love and devotion to people or to Jesus, we are allowed to experience the freedom of saying no, based on the fact that we have nothing to prove. We already are beloved.” “It’s hard to know when to hold tight to what we love and when to let it go. So I pray, “Give us the wisdom today, dear Jesus, to know the difference.” “We must not confuse our God-given abilities with our God-given assignments.” “Sometimes “Let go and let God” is bad advice.” The stories draw word-pictures you can relate to your own life and that you won’t soon forget. I can see Jennifer Dukes Lee in my minds-eye lying flat out in the snow, one boot off, headed for that hay bale with the best intentions to create the best Christmas ever. And that scene, indelibly etched on my mind’s eye, is just one of the many visuals that will remind me of her shared wisdom and hopefully internalize and use everything that I have learned. Jennifer Dukes Lee has a way with stories, wisdom, and compassion that will help you let go of trying to prove your love or whatever is spurring your need for control and to say “yes” only when it’s appropriate, letting go of wheel enough to let God and others do their part. I fully intend to buy copies of this book to share with a few AAA-type-personality ladies (really, one “A” just doesn’t cut it for these gals – and myself) who happen to be my best friends. Birds of a feather and all that… Highly recommended as a life-changing read. I received this book as a digital Advanced Reader Copy (ARC) from the publisher through NetGalley. My opinions are my own.

Wonderful book- a little hard to swallow if you truly struggle with “control” or giving up control. Sound and Godly advice. Great for anyone!

Still reading but it’s a great read so far If your wanting to stop being in control this is for you

This book immediately hit the mark for me! I was hooked since the first chapter. I did a bible study with this book and it was great to work through with other moms!

You do need to purchase the study book to go along with it..it was excellent......I love her down to earth communication, it was Easily applicable for my life...my only problem was that chapter 5 in the study didn't do an in-depth explanation of the actual physical rest we need to take....I was a little disappointed about that...

I love when God leads you to the perfect book in His perfect timing. Jennifer Dukes Lee brought that book in “It’s All Under Control” and I absolutely loved it! Jennifer writes in an easy to read, faith-filled, raw, authentic way and she sprinkles it with laugh out loud humor. I felt like I was sitting across from her as we shared a cup of coffee together. Jennifer Dukes Lee shares how control had become a coping mechanism to numb herself from the pain of life. She discusses the unhealthy affects control has upon us and how it can break us down, piece by piece. There’s a cost to control. This quote by Jennifer summed it all up for me. “I can’t begin to tell you how I willingly withstand the pressure of believing I have to be “in control,” reliable, on top of all things—and how often that self-pressure completely breaks me. I’ve learned to hide the fractured debris of my overworked life.” This resonated with me on so many levels! I couldn’t put the book down! I highlighted and journaled my way through the powerful truths and nuggets of wisdom. Jennifer Dukes Lee gently guides the reader through her Crack the Control Code plan and accepting the invitation from Jesus to live our lives in a new way. I say yes to Jesus because everything in my life is not fine, even though I tell everyone it is, including myself. It’s All Under Control is about getting our control, under control, surrender, and accepting God’s best for us. I loved Jennifer’s description of surrender, “Surrender is willfully accepting and yielding to God’s plan for your life—no matter the cost.” It’s about being who God created us to be, living intentionally, and finding the peace we all long for. I had so many “me too” and “aha” moments throughout the book. I experienced revelation, introspection, and hope of being able to untangle myself from unhealthy control. This quote by Jennifer Dukes Lee drove it all home for me, “I want depth but I stay stuck in the shallows—because I’m strung so thin. My desire to love well is why I say yes too often.” Yes, and Amen! Jennifer walks alongside the reader as she shares her personal stories. I love the Bible verses, characters, and stories she shares throughout the book. “It’s All Under Control’ has useful tools to implement the Crack the Control Code plan; The Three Control Characters, The Decision Tree, and a Control Code Continuum. They are all highly effective and easy to follow. “It’s All Under Control” is a must-read for so many beautiful reasons. I absolutely love Jennifer’s honest and engaging writing style. I’m confident this book will speak to the hearts and souls of other women as it did me.

This has been just what I needed! Perfect amount of inspiration and humor to help navigate through a busy life!

If you frazzled and looking for balance this is a good place to start. For me God time is always good time, this book a a reminder that if you have Him in your life and allow Him to be God your life will have balance and you won't feel out of control. Jennifer took.me back to scripture to find my way. I hope you will use her tool to find your way back to a balanced life with Christ at your center.

From the very first page of the introduction, I knew this book was going to be different and something I wanted to read. Jennifer Dukes Lee doesn’t offer just another fluffy book full of rainbows and chubby cherubs telling you to just release everything to God and your life will be better. She gets real. “This is what she does—she keeps it all under control, and she is under control, thank you very much. Smiling, even in the trenches. And always, fine, just fine. “I got this,” she says. And a lot of people believe her. But she doesn’t “got” this. Her outward fine does not match her inner fatigue.” Does that sound familiar? It does to me. I have lots of friends who feel the same way too. We’re all working hard to keep up with what we perceive as everyone else’s expectations, all the while simmering under the surface. Jennifer understands how we feel and she doesn’t ask us to push aside our feelings of responsibility and ambition to become a better Christian. Unlike so many other books intending to help busy women create a more peaceful home and family atmosphere, Jennifer isn’t trying to change the fundamental way you were created. In fact, she celebrates those of us who really were created to be strong, busy, Type-A women. She acknowledges all the things we’re really good at and the impact we make in our lives. It’s refreshing to read a book and not feel like the author is trying to ask you to sit quietly and shove your ambition back into a box. The greatest gift this book offers is an author who skillfully delivers encouragement to use our natural gifts well while also challenging us to become better. She doesn’t shy away from the truth about how strong women can be controlling and downright difficult when we’re unhealthy. She’s absolutely correct that there are many different reasons we try to maintain control over various aspects of our lives as well. Like a friend sitting with you on your couch, she talks you through how you’re feeling and where you want to go. You’ll find everything you need to start making helpful changes in your life. I appreciate her candor, humor, and compassion throughout this book. She obviously cares about her readers and is committed to helping each one do the hard work of self-evaluation. Jennifer Dukes Lee is the cheerleader every strong-willed woman needs to help her believe in herself, understand that she doesn’t need to do everything, and learn to rest well so she can conquer the world again tomorrow.

Is it really all under control? When your plans hit a roadblock? When a friendship fails? When your child is hurting? When God says no, or not now, or nothing at all? When the phone rings and the lab results are in? I have faced all of these struggles recently — even now. Trust me when I say life certainly hasn’t felt under control. I’ve also discovered that laundry, housework, soccer games, hungry kids, and a healthy marriage don’t suddenly clean, drive, feed, or maintain themselves just because the rest of your life is crazy-busy. So when I joined the launch team for Jennifer Dukes Lee’s newest book, It’s All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging On, and Finding a Peace You Almost Forgot Was Possible, I came in with a fair share of skepticism and a whole lot of hope. I wanted to know if this bold statement could really be true. What I discovered in less than 300 pages of some of the best writing and even better advice I’ve ever read, is that yes, it truly is all under control, and in ways I never expected to see or understand. Jennifer writes with a beautiful, witty, and authentic voice. Be forewarned: Do NOT read this book while sipping on your favorite beverage at the local coffee shop. Seriously, I nearly laughed a latte straight out my nose. There, you’ve been warned. This book isn’t about quick fixes or complicating our already-crazy lives with another dozen ways to find Pinterest-perfect-peace. Is there such a thing? It’s about understanding the WHY of our over-burdened, peace-starved, crazy-busy lives and offering practical, biblical ways to turn our crazy into Christ’s best. Each chapter ends with a “Cracking the Control Code” summary which offers helpful scriptures and ways to break cycles that keep us spinning. I also loved discovering my Control Character (Devoter/Darling here!) and all of the free resources in the book and available for download on Jennifer’s website. I went into this book thinking I was all alone in my crazy-busy life. What I discovered is not only are there other crazy-busy women just like me (yes, even that crazy) but also that even though our burdens may not be fully taken away, they don’t have to overcome us. There is a way to turn our crazy-busy into discovering God’s best. **As part of the launch team for It’s All Under Control, I received an Advanced Reader’s Copy (ARC) of the book in return for my honest review.

Jennifer Dukes Lee has control issues, as do many of us, but in addition to those issues, she’s got a killer sense of humor and wisdom that will change your life. So much of this book hit me where I live and gave me the gentle reminder that even though I do things out of love, I need to accept that I am loved and I don’t have to earn it or prove my love in return. The only deficit of this book is that I found myself also seeing my husband in it, and I wished it wasn’t quite so woman-centric, because I’m probably going to ask him to read it anyway. (We’ll see how some of the topics go over!) A few quotes – and really, it’s so hard to pick just a few. My book is glowing with yellow highlights. “…you are not a grape; you do not mature just by existing.” “I live under the false assumption that if I handle everything, I can shield my beloved people from pain.” “But even for those of us with good intentions, our caring can cross over into behavior that makes us miserable, anxious, tired—and probably less pleasant to be around. We even find ourselves annoying.” “I have regretted all the times that my well-meaning “acts of kindness” have made me as pleasant as a rabid porcupine.” “Martha—Okay. You knew she’d be on the list. But can we just stand in solidarity with Martha for a moment? We would have been right in that kitchen with her. How else are people supposed to eat?” “Good intentions get the best of us, don’t they? Eve probably didn’t go into her day with a diabolic item on her to-do list. Prune roses. Check. Feed the goofy-looking animals with really long necks. Check. Take stroll with God around lake. Check. Try out new fruit. Check. Usher sin into world. Check.” “There’s a fine line between unhealthy control and healthy control, and that line is drawn with the pen of good intentions.” “Consider the mental shift that happens when we focus primarily on Jesus’ love for us instead of our love for Jesus. Rather than working to prove our love, we work because Jesus has already proven his love toward us.” “If our relationship to Jesus is our defining one, then every decision—big or little—passes through that filter. So instead of saying yes to prove our love and devotion to people or to Jesus, we are allowed to experience the freedom of saying no, based on the fact that we have nothing to prove. We already are beloved.” “It’s hard to know when to hold tight to what we love and when to let it go. So I pray, “Give us the wisdom today, dear Jesus, to know the difference.” “We must not confuse our God-given abilities with our God-given assignments.” “Sometimes “Let go and let God” is bad advice.” The stories draw word-pictures you can relate to your own life and that you won’t soon forget. I can see Jennifer Dukes Lee in my minds-eye lying flat out in the snow, one boot off, headed for that hay bale with the best intentions to create the best Christmas ever. And that scene, indelibly etched on my mind’s eye, is just one of the many visuals that will remind me of her shared wisdom and hopefully internalize and use everything that I have learned. Jennifer Dukes Lee has a way with stories, wisdom, and compassion that will help you let go of trying to prove your love or whatever is spurring your need for control and to say “yes” only when it’s appropriate, letting go of wheel enough to let God and others do their part. I fully intend to buy copies of this book to share with a few AAA-type-personality ladies (really, one “A” just doesn’t cut it for these gals – and myself) who happen to be my best friends. Birds of a feather and all that… Highly recommended as a life-changing read. I received this book as a digital Advanced Reader Copy (ARC) from the publisher through NetGalley. My opinions are my own.

Wonderful book- a little hard to swallow if you truly struggle with “control” or giving up control. Sound and Godly advice. Great for anyone!

Still reading but it’s a great read so far If your wanting to stop being in control this is for you

This book immediately hit the mark for me! I was hooked since the first chapter. I did a bible study with this book and it was great to work through with other moms!

You do need to purchase the study book to go along with it..it was excellent......I love her down to earth communication, it was Easily applicable for my life...my only problem was that chapter 5 in the study didn't do an in-depth explanation of the actual physical rest we need to take....I was a little disappointed about that...

I love when God leads you to the perfect book in His perfect timing. Jennifer Dukes Lee brought that book in “It’s All Under Control” and I absolutely loved it! Jennifer writes in an easy to read, faith-filled, raw, authentic way and she sprinkles it with laugh out loud humor. I felt like I was sitting across from her as we shared a cup of coffee together. Jennifer Dukes Lee shares how control had become a coping mechanism to numb herself from the pain of life. She discusses the unhealthy affects control has upon us and how it can break us down, piece by piece. There’s a cost to control. This quote by Jennifer summed it all up for me. “I can’t begin to tell you how I willingly withstand the pressure of believing I have to be “in control,” reliable, on top of all things—and how often that self-pressure completely breaks me. I’ve learned to hide the fractured debris of my overworked life.” This resonated with me on so many levels! I couldn’t put the book down! I highlighted and journaled my way through the powerful truths and nuggets of wisdom. Jennifer Dukes Lee gently guides the reader through her Crack the Control Code plan and accepting the invitation from Jesus to live our lives in a new way. I say yes to Jesus because everything in my life is not fine, even though I tell everyone it is, including myself. It’s All Under Control is about getting our control, under control, surrender, and accepting God’s best for us. I loved Jennifer’s description of surrender, “Surrender is willfully accepting and yielding to God’s plan for your life—no matter the cost.” It’s about being who God created us to be, living intentionally, and finding the peace we all long for. I had so many “me too” and “aha” moments throughout the book. I experienced revelation, introspection, and hope of being able to untangle myself from unhealthy control. This quote by Jennifer Dukes Lee drove it all home for me, “I want depth but I stay stuck in the shallows—because I’m strung so thin. My desire to love well is why I say yes too often.” Yes, and Amen! Jennifer walks alongside the reader as she shares her personal stories. I love the Bible verses, characters, and stories she shares throughout the book. “It’s All Under Control’ has useful tools to implement the Crack the Control Code plan; The Three Control Characters, The Decision Tree, and a Control Code Continuum. They are all highly effective and easy to follow. “It’s All Under Control” is a must-read for so many beautiful reasons. I absolutely love Jennifer’s honest and engaging writing style. I’m confident this book will speak to the hearts and souls of other women as it did me.

This has been just what I needed! Perfect amount of inspiration and humor to help navigate through a busy life!

If you frazzled and looking for balance this is a good place to start. For me God time is always good time, this book a a reminder that if you have Him in your life and allow Him to be God your life will have balance and you won't feel out of control. Jennifer took.me back to scripture to find my way. I hope you will use her tool to find your way back to a balanced life with Christ at your center.

From the very first page of the introduction, I knew this book was going to be different and something I wanted to read. Jennifer Dukes Lee doesn’t offer just another fluffy book full of rainbows and chubby cherubs telling you to just release everything to God and your life will be better. She gets real. “This is what she does—she keeps it all under control, and she is under control, thank you very much. Smiling, even in the trenches. And always, fine, just fine. “I got this,” she says. And a lot of people believe her. But she doesn’t “got” this. Her outward fine does not match her inner fatigue.” Does that sound familiar? It does to me. I have lots of friends who feel the same way too. We’re all working hard to keep up with what we perceive as everyone else’s expectations, all the while simmering under the surface. Jennifer understands how we feel and she doesn’t ask us to push aside our feelings of responsibility and ambition to become a better Christian. Unlike so many other books intending to help busy women create a more peaceful home and family atmosphere, Jennifer isn’t trying to change the fundamental way you were created. In fact, she celebrates those of us who really were created to be strong, busy, Type-A women. She acknowledges all the things we’re really good at and the impact we make in our lives. It’s refreshing to read a book and not feel like the author is trying to ask you to sit quietly and shove your ambition back into a box. The greatest gift this book offers is an author who skillfully delivers encouragement to use our natural gifts well while also challenging us to become better. She doesn’t shy away from the truth about how strong women can be controlling and downright difficult when we’re unhealthy. She’s absolutely correct that there are many different reasons we try to maintain control over various aspects of our lives as well. Like a friend sitting with you on your couch, she talks you through how you’re feeling and where you want to go. You’ll find everything you need to start making helpful changes in your life. I appreciate her candor, humor, and compassion throughout this book. She obviously cares about her readers and is committed to helping each one do the hard work of self-evaluation. Jennifer Dukes Lee is the cheerleader every strong-willed woman needs to help her believe in herself, understand that she doesn’t need to do everything, and learn to rest well so she can conquer the world again tomorrow.

Is it really all under control? When your plans hit a roadblock? When a friendship fails? When your child is hurting? When God says no, or not now, or nothing at all? When the phone rings and the lab results are in? I have faced all of these struggles recently — even now. Trust me when I say life certainly hasn’t felt under control. I’ve also discovered that laundry, housework, soccer games, hungry kids, and a healthy marriage don’t suddenly clean, drive, feed, or maintain themselves just because the rest of your life is crazy-busy. So when I joined the launch team for Jennifer Dukes Lee’s newest book, It’s All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging On, and Finding a Peace You Almost Forgot Was Possible, I came in with a fair share of skepticism and a whole lot of hope. I wanted to know if this bold statement could really be true. What I discovered in less than 300 pages of some of the best writing and even better advice I’ve ever read, is that yes, it truly is all under control, and in ways I never expected to see or understand. Jennifer writes with a beautiful, witty, and authentic voice. Be forewarned: Do NOT read this book while sipping on your favorite beverage at the local coffee shop. Seriously, I nearly laughed a latte straight out my nose. There, you’ve been warned. This book isn’t about quick fixes or complicating our already-crazy lives with another dozen ways to find Pinterest-perfect-peace. Is there such a thing? It’s about understanding the WHY of our over-burdened, peace-starved, crazy-busy lives and offering practical, biblical ways to turn our crazy into Christ’s best. Each chapter ends with a “Cracking the Control Code” summary which offers helpful scriptures and ways to break cycles that keep us spinning. I also loved discovering my Control Character (Devoter/Darling here!) and all of the free resources in the book and available for download on Jennifer’s website. I went into this book thinking I was all alone in my crazy-busy life. What I discovered is not only are there other crazy-busy women just like me (yes, even that crazy) but also that even though our burdens may not be fully taken away, they don’t have to overcome us. There is a way to turn our crazy-busy into discovering God’s best. **As part of the launch team for It’s All Under Control, I received an Advanced Reader’s Copy (ARC) of the book in return for my honest review.

This is a very timely book for me, arriving just as several key elements of my life started going wrong, or fell out altogether. This is the third book by Jennifer Dukes Lee that I have read and this one lives up to the excellence that I have come to expect from the author. Jennifer's writing is a delightful cohesion of gentle humor, getting to the heart of pitfalls swept under life's rug, and bringing to light issues that trip us up and steal joy. She shares insights and ideas for dealing with them honestly and kindly, so that one may walk joyfully in freedom. Her stories and examples are perfectly suited to open each important point and implant them in the heart's understanding. I am grateful to know that I'm not the only one who wants to "let go" when something is hard and calls for perseverance rather than self-protection, and conversely tries to hang on to things too big for me when I should let go, afraid of what will happen. The chapter "Clueless" was particularly moving. Jennifer talks about those times when it feels like God doesn't show up and we are on our own, how the one little piece we are given to do may be all we can see. "Every day we have a choice to make. We can choose to believe that God sees a bigger picture and that we are here to put certain pieces in place, even when it doesn't makes sense. Even when it's inconvenient. Even when it hurts. Even when we have to surrender every outcome." I have received from this book not only tools with which to find balance and peace in life - figuring out what is mine to deal with and what is not mine - but also hope, because what I see right now isn't the total picture, or the "end" of the story. "For every one thing you do, God is doing another thousand things behind it. Your job is the one thing he stuck on your list. That's it. The one thing. The rest? For now, you have no clue...When frustration comes, remember this: The most important work you ever do might outlive you." I don't have to read my story to the end, I just need to do my "one thing" faithfully and, thanks to Jennifer, with a few giggles along the way, like sunshine breaking through a rain cloud.

From the first sentence, she had me. I spent years trying to control my life trajectory to hide a painful past. In the very first chapter, Jennifer Dukes Lee extends the invitation that was extended to her from Jesus Himself: "You are cordially invited to embrace a new way of living. Help is here." We attempt to mask our out of control lives with our feeble attempts to hide the pain and say we're fine. Here's what she says about that on page 11: "Underneath all of that "fine," you are in emotional pain. These are the sources of your distress: - Some of your pain came because of all the things you're trying to do. You are tired. - Some of your pain came because of all the things that happened to you. You are broken. Jennifer reminds us we are all women who are trying - trying to hold it all together, to give our best, to be there for others. In our prayer life, we ask God for a map to figure it out; instead, Jesus gives us a compass and says, "Follow me." This book is an easy read - albeit convicting. The chapters are about 20 pages long with interesting sidebars that often interjects humor. There's also a page or two at the end of each chapter called "Cracking the Control Code" where Jennifer shares a helpful strategy for cracking our own personal control code. Be ready to give this section some serious thought if you're up to the challenge - really, it won't take that long, but it's necessary if you want to do some self-examination and correction. The chapter where she introduces the "Do, Delegate, and Dismiss" approach to our daily to-do lists is absolutely freeing! This is becoming a part of my daily routine - maybe it can go down to once a week, but for now, I need the gentle reminder that I'm not really in control, God is, and He has a plan to free us, help us overcome anxiety, and only do what He's asked us to do. This strategy also helps to develop responsible children, and develop the gifts of others in our churches and ministries that we can delegate things to. I highly recommend this book. It will lighten your load and bring peace to your soul. I promise.

Something about this title pulled me in, and I couldn't figure out why...I don't REALLY have a control issue. (Ahem.) This is one for women of all ages. First of all, Jennifer is as transparent and authentic as they get. Her blog has been a favorite of mine and I was so excited to be able to read an advanced copy as part of the launch team. Her cadence is easy and the way she uses imagery to connect an idea is masterful. She has a wonderful way of relating to readers - as if she is sitting right in front of you, having a cup of coffee and discussing this in person. I enjoyed her section at the end of each chapter as a recap of the main ideas, but in essence giving the reader an opportunity to dig deeper and use it for application purposes. Here are a few of my favorite quotes... (Right off the bat, in her introduction) She is tired, yes, but she doesn’t know how to stop. This is what she does—she keeps it all under control, and she is under control, thank you very much. Smiling, even in the trenches. And always, fine, just fine. “I got this,” she says. And a lot of people believe her. But she doesn’t “got” this. Her outward fine does not match her inner fatigue.### I resonated with the entire chapter of "Room" as if it was written specifically for me. It uses her experience of "quieting" (or decluttering) her living room as a metaphor for applying this approach to life. As in this quote: The room had become an accidental metaphor for the human tendency to live an overstuffed, jumbled, noisy life. ### (And then, continuing to relate the living room experience, she gave 4 questions to set real life applications in motion). LOVED IT! She has resources in the back of the book and on her website to go with the reading. I enjoyed laughing with and crying with her as she gave an account to many relatable situations out of her control. I will read this again and look forward to the Bible study material (booklet and video series), as well. Thank you, Jennifer!! --- Danae

Have you ever found yourself repeating these words "It's all under control" while holding back the tears? Some circumstances in my life have caused me to do just that. I am a born people pleaser who hates confrontation so I find myself saying YES to many times and then feel the weight of the busyness bearing down on me and my family. This newest release from Jennifer Dukes Lee is an easy read, she encourages her readers to let go, hang on and find a peace that they almost forgot was possible. One of my favorite quotes from the book is "let go of what God has not asked you to do, so you can shine at what He has." Filling our schedules with things (even great things) is not how God designed us to be. Saying no or removing things from our schedule that God does not want us to do during that season WILL give others a chance to live into something that they were created to do but maybe not given the opportunity! Another area of the book that resonated with me was the chapter where Jennifer encourages us to ask for help. I am guilty of the first scenario she writes about, I would rather be the helper than the helped. This is not something that can change overnight but I am asking God to change my perspective and allow me to ask for and accept help from others before everything starts to spin out of control. While I still have a long way to go before I can confidently say "it's all under control" (and mean it); This book helped to give me tips and wisdom from a Christian perspective. There are some great charts, quizzes and Biblical references scattered throughout this book. I would recommend it to all women because if we are being completely honest, at some point or another we have all felt this way. I am excited about the partner Bible Study companion guide and working through this with a group of women at church. I received an advanced copy as part of the launch team for this book.

I would recommend this book to anyone who did like they have way too much in their plate and that thru have no one to rely on. The title accurately describes this book and Jennifer is so very relatable! So glad our Bible study leader chose "It's All Under Control" for our group along with the study guide!

What an influential book! I highly recommend ‘It’s All Under Control’ to women of all ages. What a great gift to give anyone navigating self-awareness. Why wait to be aware that people, not ‘us’ need to manage their own lives. What a weight lifted! :) Find freedom in The Freedom Giver- through Jennifer’s writings. What I love and admire about her most, is that she is real and honest about her own life and the lessons she has learned, and continues to. She has a great sense of humor, and is filled with a fun-loving spirit. This book is seriously hard to put down! It is like you are sitting with a close girlfriend over coffee and you can’t wait to meet up with her again! :) Jennifer shares many heart-warming and personal stories that made me smile, like the time her dad asked her for help; (vulnerability equals strength) it served as a beautiful example, and it was her honor and joy to lovingly serve him. We all would like to be in control of many things, but we are NOT! So I conclude with two relatable and desired declarations Jennifer shares ; “Today, I refuse to be held back, chained down, worked up, or shoved ahead. I am committed to God’s agenda and God’s purposes, and I ask for God’s peace so I can pursue God’s glory.” ”I abstain from useless brooding, worrisome thinking, frantic pushing, or jittery striving. I want the self controlled mind of Christ, not the anxious mind of chaos. Such a valuable read! You will not be disappointed. I received an early copy of the book ‘It’s All Under Control.’ It is published by Tyndale, and this review is written in my own words. With gratitude to the author, her team and publisher, Robin Marie Hill.

I really thought I had control over my control issues. That is until I began reading Jennifer Duke Lee’s new book, “It’s All Under Control.” God began to uncover all kinds of issues of control in my heart. Each chapter found me digging deeper into my insatiable striving to manage outcomes, trying to “handle everything” to shield my loved ones from pain, and attempting to keep myself and everyone around me from any discomfort. All in the name of “love”, continually desiring to prove my love, instead of resting in God’s love for me. What freedom I am experiencing in letting God determine the results, just showing up, and being obedient to whatever it is He asks of me for the day. It’s a mindset and motivation change, breaking ingrained patterns of unhealthy thinking for me. So many of us women suffer from placing our identity in and estimating our own worth based on our usefulness and productivity. This leaving us stressed out, anxious and exhausted. Pick up this book, commit to honesty before God and in your own heart. Do the exercises at the end of each chapter. God will show up with His supernatural Presence, and He will change your heart and your life. You will begin to recognize His Voice louder than your own, and you’ll see that His Plan is so much bigger, so much better than you could ever imagine. Jennifer’s book is indeed a journey of letting go, hanging on & finding a peace that I never thought was possible. I give it a hearty thumbs up!!

I had the honor of being on the launch team for this book and I have to be honest - it was the best launch team EVER. This book is incredible and timely. From our kids to our future, from our bodies to our minds, we want to pretend that we have some semblance of control over what happens, when it happens, and how. We've determined that we are the masters of our own fate and that we must strive to ensure that everything goes according to our plans.
That's not how God works. JDL reminds us that Jesus is not to just be relegated to being another box to check off on our to-do list — he is, in fact, the author of the list. Who is this book for? It's for control freaks. It's for working moms struggling to balance career and family. It's for stay-at-home mothers who feel so alone and inadequate. It's for women everywhere who are stressed out, burned out, and sick of living life as though they have to make time for everyone and everything except themselves. In this book, JDL walks you through the scriptures as they relate to God's love for you, how he is waiting for you to surrender your life to him and in so doing let go of every last sin and burden that is weighing you down. In this book, JDL presents the Gospel through the lens of a weary soul crying out for relief, and the gracious, loving, generous God who steps in to say:
"Trust me, I'll catch you."

Are you also the sort that strives to have it all under control and consistently forgets that God already does? Maybe this book is one way God would like to answer your prayer for peace. It’s All Under Control has certainly been an answer to prayer for me. This book is the perfect mix of gentle, relatable, and convicting. Dukes Lee offers practical advice as well as empathy. The wisdom is godly and Biblical while offered with humility. Some of the quotes that stood out to me were: “We must not confuse our God-given abilities with our God-given assignments.” “We will never know if we can trust Jesus if we don’t give him the chance to prove it.” “Jesus doesn’t expect us to bleed ourselves dry from wounds for which he bled already.” “Jesus Christ let go of heaven to hang on to us.” “Nothing else on our to-do list matters as much as knowing we were completely obedient to His.” “True rest isn’t about your lack of activity; it’s about the state of your soul. True rest isn’t a place you go; it’s a Person you know.” I highly recommend this book if you’re a Jesus-loving woman who can’t quite reconcile surrendering to God’s control with everything you have to get done (like the dishes and the job and the loving others and ALL the things!) (I got to read an advanced copy of this book!! So thankfully!! This review is 100% my real opinion!)

This has been so good for me to take a step back and reexamine why I am a certain way and why I do certain things. I’m a go-getter. I like Monday morning 8am way better than Friday 5pm. I’m a doer and can totally relate to Martha instead of Mary. Secretly I wish I was Mary (sitting at Jesus’ feet listening all the live long day), but Martha is who I am. Jennifer has given me permission not to apologize for being busy anymore. That’s right. I can be in the kitchen serving AND still become more like Christ. I need to keep choosing to get up early and avoid productivity when it clouds God’s presence in the morning while I’m reading His word. Surrender for me doesn’t mean to leave all of my obligations behind. It means stepping forward in faith, hanging on to what God has called me to do (take up my cross) even if its hard. It is finding the balance. Life is all about the balance. There is no right way or wrong way, but for so long I’ve wanted to be a better Christian and not focused on my relationship with God. Developing a close, intimate relationship is something I’m still learning how to do with the Creator of the Universe. I’m not quite sure what to do or how to go about doing it, but I can tell you this: the time spent in God’s word has never been wasted. Not one time.

As the mother of 5 (2 in college, 2 in high school, 1 in middle school) and married to 1 I often get the question. How are you? I am good but sooo busy? Every wonder what would happen if you just stopped? Throw in the towel? be done? In reality I know that can't happen but am I really doing the best for everyone? Am I doing my best for God? Is this really his desire for me to be this chaotic? I have tried so many self help books on how to organize, how to do this system, how to try this. Don't get me wrong many have carried me on this journey. Once again Jennifer Dukes Lee has brought me something that was practical. First off I really think she crawled into my mind and wrote this book. I loved the Cracking the Code at the end of each chapter with steps to stop and process what you read but take a real hard look at yourself. This helped me take steps toward God's best for me and therefore my family. Isn't that what we want as moms and wives. I would recommend this book and journey for anyone who struggles with what to take on and what to let go of and not commit to. It gives you practical steps to do along side Jennifer herself on this journey. Enjoy the journey!

Honestly, I feel like God has been asking me to let things go and to relinquish the facade of having control for decades now! So when I saw the title of Jennifer Dukes Lee's new book, I wondered if I really needed to read it. I mean, I've got this... (and that phrase should show you the irony!) I love JDL and have been honored to be on her book launch teams for every release so far! And like all the others, in It's All Under Control, Lee uses words that both confirm what God has been teaching me and telling me, as well as words that help me actually follow through! This book is lovely and full of truth, and helps in how to let go... and how to tap into that Peace that we all long for... that Peace that has been promised to us! There are great questions and a fun quiz (of course!) and gorgeous videos and even a Study to purchase to go through this book with friends! I'm not quite finished reading it myself, but I'm far enough into it to notice changes in me and a loosening grip and rising assurance that I don't have to do it all... and what I am called to do, --well, I am not called to do it on my own! Even if you think you don't need this message... chances are, you do!

I would classify it as her in depth personal experience, light scripture, and inspirational self help but a good overall study. The free videos on YouTube are absolutely wonderful and great for discussion. The workbook companion to this book offers a lot of paragraph reading during group time (which I skipped most when leading this study), but useful for scripture and questions (which is where I prefer best to spend their time). The book offered more personal challenges at the end of every chapter than the workbook and videos. If you subscribe on her page there are promotional downloads for leaders. If you are leading a group, I'd recommend the book for leaders only and for those that want a more in depth study for more personal enrichment unless you want your class to teach self help (which I didn't).

"Here's what surrender is: surrender is willfully accepting and yielding to God's plan for your life - no matter the cost!" (Jennifer Dukes Lee) Over the years I've read a few "must read" books, this is one of them! Jennifer Lee's book came at the the right time in my life. I really didn't think I needed to read this book because "I didn't have control issues." That thought alone told me that I needed to read this book. This quote by Jennifer gives you in one sentence a peek at what the book is about: "A journey of letting go, hanging on and finding a peace you almost forgot was possible." This book encourages, challenges and changes you and the way you view your life. I'm in the midst of letting go of things that I was never meant to carry. Letting go of things that will free up my time, so that I might become involved with the things that God wants me to be doing with my time, gifts and talents...Allowing for peace instead of stress. Letting go of things that I really have no control over and trusting the One who has it all under control. "True rest isn’t about your lack of activity; it’s about the state of your soul. True rest isn’t a place you go; it’s a Person you know." (Jennifer Dukes Lee)

Jennifer Dukes Lee has once again written a stellar and practical book. I wanted to read this one based solely on the fact that I have enjoyed and learned from her previous books, Love Idol and The Happiness Dare. Dukes has a warm way of inviting her reader into her world. While the book definitely deals with the topic of the various ways we deal with control (self-identified Driver here!), it does so in a way that allows the reader to extend grace to themselves while identifying the areas and ways they might tend to exert control. While this is definitely written for women, I would highly recommend it for any man wanting to better understand the women in his world as well. Dukes has a way of taking her own tendencies and struggles and sharing them in a way that allows us to recognize those we love in her descriptions. Best story ever in this book is when Dukes shares her attempts to control the holiday season into the perfect Christmas experience. I laughed while at the same time internally saying ouch! I could so see myself in this example. Give yourself a gift and pick this book up. You will find ways to extend grace to yourself as Dukes shares practical ideas of breaking the cycle of control.

First page in and I think they've written this about me! 😮💜 Those were my first thoughts and I shared them on social media. This quote rang true and I was only in the first chapter. "She is tired, yes, but she doesn’t know how to stop. This is what she does—she keeps it all under control, and she is under control, thank you very much. Smiling, even in the trenches. And always, fine, just fine. “I got this,” she says. And a lot of people believe her. But she doesn’t “got” this. Her outward fine does not match her inner fatigue." While I read this book I was finalizing 8+ months on a energy, life, and emotionally draining project for work. I was hanging on and in control. By a thread or maybe an eyelash. As I read this book about turning control over to the Lord and struggling with just that in a big way, God spoke to my heart. He already has it under control and my help wasn't required. I recommend It's All Under Control to every control freak I know. Jennifer breaks it down for us in a truly relatable manner and she too struggles. I'm looking forward to continuing with the Bible study next.

I was so encouraged by this book. As a highly motivated and active person who gets things done, people tell me to do less, but then sometimes I feel like I should be doing more. I feel guilty for doing so many things that I love and guilty for not doing enough. It's a no-win scenario. In this book, Jennifer Dukes Lee takes on my personality, and says it's ok to be great at getting things done. This is how you were created and that is such a gift. And then she invites us to on a journey of reevaluating our doing in a way that allows us to let go of our need to control, but still pursue these things God has placed in our lives with whole hearts and souls. Sometimes we are called to let go and sometimes we are called to hold on with all we’ve got. We don't need to be worried, or stressed, or overwhelmed, because God has it covered. If you've ever found yourself trying to control all the outcomes, feeling a little out of place because you love doing all the things and being busy, or taking on way too much this book is for you.

Another awesome book by author Jennifer Dukes Lee. This book really hit home with me. I am notorious for taking on a gazillion projects, then stressing because I can’t get anything done. I have taken on too much once again. It’s All Under Control has awesome pointers on prioritizing your life. I highlighted so many things in this book. I wanted to share a couple of them: “Bravery is letting go when you want to hang on” ~Jennifer Dukes Lee “We’ve got to get our control under control, so it doesn’t take control of us. We must not confuse our God-given abilities with our God-given assignments.” ~Jennifer Dukes Lee “We will never know if we can trust Jesus if we don’t give him the chance to prove it. Friend, letting go isn’t cowardly. It’s so very courageous.” ~Jennifer Dukes Lee This is just some of the awesomeness you will get from reading this book. I highly recommend reading this. *I received a copy of this book from the author. I loved it so much that I bought a copy to give to a friend. This review is my honest opinion. A review was not required*

I felt like she wrote this book specifically for me. All the struggles I face as a mom, a wife, an employer, and I strive to keep it all under control. This book had so many applications. I've really learned so much after reading this.

As a very Type A person who desperately just wants everyone and everything in her world to be "ok," this book was a wake-up call to the reality that God is God...and I am not. Jennifer Dukes Lee takes us through the process of learning to prioritize our lives, align our choices so that they fall into God's purpose for us, and let go of the anxiety and worry that so many of us carry around every day. For someone like me, who carries chronic anxiety around like it's my fifth child, learning to release the things (and people) that contribute to it is difficult at best. As I poured through It's All Under Control, I felt like Jennifer was speaking directly to me, reminding me that God knows my heart and my intentions, and that He is also able to give me the rest that I so desperately need--if I will just trust Him. This is not a book that will linger long on my shelves--I know that I will be returning to it again and again, searching for His wisdom and grace in the pages. *I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.

When I started to see that Jennifer had written a new book and it was for those who like to be in control, who keep busy, who just wants to get things right, I thought "this is me." What great timing and to be a part of her launch team - so amazing and grateful! As I began reading I realized that I'm not as much of a control freak as I thought. In some areas sure but overall not so much. For that reason parts of the book did not resonate with me as much as I expected. However, there were plenty of gems of truth that spoke to this "Darling." The chapters called Clueless, Wait, and Rest gave me pause. I'm quite a busy person according to others and these chapters in particular have me reflecting on what I currently do and don't have going on right now. Like talking to a close friend, through personal life illustrations and examples from the life of Jesus, this book superbly and beautifully invites you out of a life of chaos into the guarantee that we will never walk this life alone.

I have previously read Jennifer Dukes Lee's books. I thoroughly enjoyed the Happiness Dare. I bought several copies to give to friends. Her new book is as amazing as her previous books. I am a control freak. I admit it. I don't want to be one. I thought I had a handle on it but reading this book made me realize I have more work to do. This book offers practical advice and useful exercises to manage your life. In the back of the book is the control code continuum. It is a tool you can use to make sure you've developed healthy patterns of behavior. At the end of each chapter is a section called cracking the control code. It offers you advice as well as exercises you can use to reflect and learn from. Her writing is witty, down to earth and relatable. I was privileged to be added to her launch team. I received a copy of the book before it was released. I know I will be purchasing more copies of this book to give to my friends so they too can get a handle on their control issues.

I created a women’s small group online through our church and this book and bible study was great! Lots of resources available online to easily lead an online group. The content was great for women burnt out in the hustle of life. I definitely would recommend this book for personal use as well has to lead a group with.

From the first page of the introduction to the final page turn, I felt like Jennifer Dukes Lee was speaking my love language! Every chapter of the book was filled with humor, insight, encouragement, and wisdom. As an attorney, wife, mother, grandmother, Bible study leader, friend, and the list goes on, I want to try to have it all under control. At the very least I needed to look like I had it all under control. Jennifer's words helped me to hit the "pause" button, take a deep breath, and truly embrace that it's ok to seek, find and enjoy true rest. One of my favorite things about this author is that she is REAL! She shares her struggles with transparency and wit. After reading her book you will feel like Jennifer's best friend. Finally, I really appreciate that this book has a wealth of Biblical wisdom and practical tools to help in our journey of surrender. After reading this book, I believe every woman could benefit from adding this to the top of her "to read" list. Pamela Jones

I chose this book because it just called out to me when I was looking for an additional self help book touching on control. Learning to let go controlling and worrying about how things turn out is something I knew was holding me back from being at ease and happy with myself and how I interact with others. The book started slow for me because I thought it was geared for those who were super career oriented. However, I found that not to be true. It's for anyone that needs help in not taking on more than they can handle and being at peace with saying no. I have a lot of highlights in this book I plan on referencing and tools I will use from now on. Thank You Jennifer!!

One of the things I love most about Jennifer Dukes Lee's writing is that she shares deep truths sprinkled with humor. Control is a vast topic, and hard to cover, but in "It's All Under Control", Jennifer does it with thought-provoking examples that lets the reader know she's not alone in scrambling for control over her daily calendar, the workplace, kids, LIFE, etc. My two favorite chapters cover when to let go of control, and when to hang on. Because the truth is, we don't always know what to do in certain difficult situations, and the answer isn't always a trite "Let go and let God". Just like with Jennifer's 2 previous books (Love Idol & The Happiness Dare), she had to learn to "walk the talk" so that her writing would be helpful and effective, and she shares openly and honestly throughout her latest book examples of how she accomplished that. This is a book for ANYONE who feels overwhelmed, is tired of being "crazy busy", and/or feels like they just can't take on one more thing. 5 stars! Highly recommend!

Its All Under Control by Jennifer Dukes Lee is definitely a book that I was desperately in need of. It's a book about trying to control your life, and the life of those around you, when in all reality we have no control at all. This is not a judgemental book. This is a book that helps you to remember that God has all control and that His way is always best. Most of the time, we try to control things out of love, not wanting bad tho vs to happen to us, or those we love. Jennifer helps us to realize that these, so called bad things, are actually what helps us grow strong, and grow closer to God. This is a book that a person needs to take some time with, it shouldn't be rushed through. There is also a Bible study that goes with it. Throughout this book Jennifer lovingly shares her struggles with control and shares biblical and practical tips on how to let go and let God. I recommend everyone read this book

Jennifer Dukes Lee is easily one of my favorite authors. I suppose it's because she writes in such a way that it feels like coffee with an old friend and we're having deep, honest coversation right across from one another. Her thoughts are so like mine, therefore her godly advice has never failed to hit home. It's All Under Control particularly hits me in my Type A, perfectionist, I-can-do-it-all personality, showering grace on the areas of life that need it the most. It's a gentle (and not so gentle) reminder that, whatever it is I think I need to prove, doesn't need to be. My burned out on life attitude, doesn't have to be one of BEING burned out. This book is a reminder that our lives aren't designed to do it all, never resting or letting ourselves rest in HIM. It's All Under Control is made for the woman of this age and if I could purchase a copy for every female in my life, I would. It's a message we all SO need to hear.

This book may be pretty like so many others that talk about trusting God in the midst of our busy lives, but I haven’t read one that is as clear, offering biblical wisdom and practical solutions that any woman would be encouraged by. This book inspires you to hang on when you need to and let go when you don’t, in order to find peace, be your best self, and do the things you’ve been called to do. As a busy mom, I don’t have a lot of time to sit and read, but Jennifer’s conversational style gets straight to the point and makes everything easy to take in. She takes you on her own journey from try-hard to trusting God by including personal stories along the way, and they make readers feel like they’re not the only one who’s ever been tired, anxious, overwhelmed, or let their “controlling” get out of control. Simply put, this is a beautiful book with a beautiful message for any woman who takes the time to read it.

Jennifer is kind, honest, and funny in this book! But perhaps more importantly, her message is so convicting. Each chapter helped me realize the areas in my life that I have never surrendered to God. I never thought I struggled with control until I opened this book and saw my own struggles poured out on the pages. I am so grateful that I picked this up! Even if you don’t think of yourself as “controlling,” you need this book. Any woman wanting to be closer to God and to trust God further will deeply benefit from Jennifer’s words and encouragement.

I believe that certain books enter your lives at the exact precise moment God knows you need to hear that message. It's All Under Control was that book. As I read, I couldn't help but feel like Jennifer was in my head, reading my thoughts :) Every word seemed to hit a moment I was experiencing in my life. As women, regardless of what stage of life we are in, we pile on too much and feel a need to control it all....out of love. What we don't realize is, we don't need to do this! Someone else, mightier than us, is in control! The realism of her experiences and advice make Jennifer a type of old friend that we all need. Her truths and messages from God are what gives us comfort and laughter. She is so raw in this book and helps us realize, as women, we don't have to carry it all or worry about it all. Our God has it under control!

In The last chapter of the book Jennifer writes “During my own journey, I learned that I wasn’t a woman to be “fixed”; instead, I was a woman whom God wanted to redirect. God never once told me to be a different person, to stop achieving, or to tear up all of my to-do lists. Instead he channeled me in a more fruitful direction. Now I can finally let go of what God has not asked me to do, so I can shine at what he has. I am, at last, arriving at my essential self.” During this book, Jennifer guides you chapter after chapter through her controlling journey, why? In order to help you discover the control beliefs and actions in your own life. And I believe the words written above, are exactly what Jennifer wants us all to say about ourselves. I believe that’s the reason God ask her to write this book. So ask yourself, “Where are you on controlling?”

This book has so much to offer women of all ages. We are so often our biggest critics, over achievers, and people pleasers filling our calendar up to feel needed, secure, or loved. The trade off we are very busy, tired and want to jump off the merry go round of our own making. Jennifer speaks to you as a woman, a friend, a sister in Christ sharing her own struggles with control as if she were sitting at the kitchen table with you. Together the book explores ways to make new healthy choices with God at the center. I am a daughter, wife, sister, and grandmother. The younger me would have loved to have this in my hands in those toddler to teen years at the same time I am immersing myself in it for this season of life too. Put this on your must read and do it before you say ‘Yes’ to one more item in your calendar.

This is a book that I believe all women can relate to! I am constantly joking with friends about how I feel like the Uber driver for my kids. Let's hurry to school, gymnastics, dance, football, piano, Sunday school, and play-dates. Then there are my own activities that I constantly rush to. Pinterest and Facebook makes it seem like we better do it all with a big smile on our faces or we are not keeping up:) I feel like I am spinning my wheels but not really doing the best job at any of it. Plus I am losing sight of what is really important. How can I be the best "me" and put God at the center of it all? Jennifer Dukes Lee helps bring insight to this and helps you to prioritize with her "Do, Delegate, or Dismiss" approach! This book is an easy read and will help you to take a deep breath once again!

This book is perfect for the woman who thinks she has to have it all under control. Spoiler alert: You don't! I didn't used to think this was me but as I read more and more, I realized how much I used control as a crutch...and that it is the source of my anxiety and depression most, if not all, of the time. Jennifer Dukes Lee has a way of writing that opened my eyes to the truth with love and grace always pointing me to biblical truths and Jesus. I don't find books like these easy to read usually but this one kept me turning the page, nodding my head and praying for clarity in my own life. I would love to do the companion bible study as well to further my study and focus on the One who does have it all under control... who loves me even still when I falter and fall. Highly recommend this book!

"The world doesn't need me to rescue it; sometimes, it needs me to step away, find my chill, and wait while God does the work he is fully capable of doing." "Our main job is not to manage outcomes. It is simply to show up. Everything else is up to God." Jennifer Dukes Lee What! Not rescue people, not manage outcomes! Wait! That's what I did my whole career! I definitely recognized myself in this book and you probably will also. This book is so much more than 'Let go and let God.' I learned so much about myself, what I need to delegate, what I need let go and how to say no. Jennifer takes you on a journey to learn how to listen to God and let him guide your agenda. I highly recommend *It's All Under Control*!

Every chapter of this book was encouraging to me! Life was feeling like a never-ending list of obligations, and the thought of running away was rather appealing. Yet, I don't want to run away. I want to love my people, and do my best and make a difference in this crazy life. With her conversational writing style, Jennifer Dukes Lee tells us what it means to surrender to God while being true to who He created us to be, all without needing to run away! I think every woman could benefit from this book, as there are chapters for various situations we all find ourselves in as we journey through life. She helps us learn when to say "yes," when to say "no," and how we all have a "control character" with it's own strengths and weakness. The book has Biblical wisdom, practical tools to use in making decision and personal, relate-able stories from Jennifer's life.

I wanted to read Jennifer Dukes Lee's newest book because I read The Happiness Dare and loved it so much (and her!). I didn't really feel like I had an issue with control, I just wanted to support an amazing author - boy, was I wrong!! I saw myself and my struggle to control in every chapter. No wonder I feel such pressure day in and day out! Thank God, He has provided the solution - in fact, He IS the solution! This is a very practical, often humorous book filled with scriptural truth and loving honesty, as well as the author's transparency in her own struggle to control. This girl walks the walk! As soon as I read the last page, I will begin with page 1 and read it again. There is so much to glean from this wise woman's writing. Thank you Jennifer!

I love the encouraging inspiration this book brings. I like how it recognizes the need to live our lives and make decisions and do the things, yet in it all, make time for rest and finding our best and resting in the truth that God's got it and I don't have to micro-manage myself and everyone else to death. I love the encouragement to keep doing the best job at what we excel at and to recognize God is directing us in it all. I love the real life stories and struggles the author shares. If you've ever struggled with grasping at controlling everything or if you've ever dealt with feeling as if everything were out-of-control, you may want to add this book to your reading list! I received an advance copy to read, and all opinions are 100% my own.

To he honest, when I started reading this book I thought, "this isn't for me." The author was great, but the material just seemed to be geared to a different genre of women. It seemed to address those who are overwhelmed bc they are involved in too many things (a.k.a. the overachievers). It advises how to delegate responsibilities and learn to say "no." This doesn't pertain to me. I have some health issues and am forced to say "no." However, I pushed myself to continue reading and I'm so glad I did. The book is not just for those who have too many spoons in the pot. It's a book for all. The author makes great points and made me think of things in a different light. "It's All Under Control" is a book you'll want to refer to again and again.

I loved "It's All Under Control" by Jennifer Dukes Lee and how she honestly unpacked her own story of surrendering control in a loving and encouraging way for me, and anyone else who struggles to let God take the lead. This book couldn't have come at a better time in my life, on the homestretch of our 3rd deployment, solo parenting 3 children under 8 while working full time in ministry. Each chapter had just enough truth for the day with application/reflection questions at the end to help move those truths from head to heart. I would recommend this book to anyone who is feeling overwhelmed, like they have too many plates spinning, struggling to keep it all under control. As Jennifer reminded me, it is all under control, just not by me. Thank you Jesus for that! - Amanda

Jennifer's biblical approach (and humor!) in guiding us through what to let go of and what to hang on to in our daily lives is so helpful and practical! It seems this book was written just for me, but I know I'm not alone! It's All Under Control came to me in a season in my life where my head is filled with worry and my calendar is filled with obligations. Are you like me? Before you add one more "yes" to your already (overly) full schedule, before you spend one more day worrying about things that are out of your control - READ THIS BOOK!!! Help is on the way! Definitely a must-read for anyone (like me!) who is ready to let go of the crazy-busy life and embrace the life that God intended for us!

It’s All Under Control is my current “traveling handbook,” packed with resources I’ll use again and again. Thanks to Jennifer’s very frank and witty style (she confesses things I think but wouldn’t have the guts to reveal), take-home value is at a premium. Her prayer to the Holy Spirit (Ch 8), her 3 important words we must use (“I need help!”), and this quote, “Asking for help requires heart-unzipped intimacy with God, who saw your need in the first place,” are three of many favorite parts of the book! Discover whether you’re a driver, a devoted, or a darling. Don’t miss the Decision Tree or how to crack the control code. All of us control freaks will benefit from this book in multiple ways. I wish I’d had this while raising our boys. Thank you, Jennifer Dukes Lee. WOW!

I loved this book. Jennifer writes in such a way that you feel like she is an encouraging friend sitting down for coffee and a chat. Her words are challenging and thought provoking, while also tender and loving. She gives encouragement for who God made you to be, while also offering ways to walk through life choosing his peace in the midst of all we have to do. There were times I found myself nodding along with her words, while wiping tears--feeling like I was known and understood through her own life and story. She points you firmly to Christ and I finished the book feeling like I had just taken a huge breath of fresh air. If you need a reminder to look up from the daily grind, and find peace, this is it. --Kendra

It wasn't until I had my kids that I realized how many little things in my life I try to control. Lately I'm just tired, spiritually and mentally and this book couldn't have come at a better time. Jennifer does a fantastic job of leading you through identifying the trap of control in different areas of your life and helps you release them - all based on Scripture. The book is easy to read but really takes time to process and journal through. I didn't do this with a group but I'd love to read through it again as a study with friends so we can support each other and hold each other accountable. I'm so thankful that the Lord gave Jennifer this book and that it came into my life when it did!

It's All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging... by Jennifer Dukes Lee (Goodreads Author) Currently Reading I have not been an avid reader for many years as I did not have or did not allow myself to make time is probably the better statement. I picked up this book and felt a sense of calmness wash over me. I did not feel rushed to read the book but rather I felt like God had cleared my schedule for me and was inviting me to sit with Him and read the words. Letting go of the control and giving it over to God is not an easy task but the words Jennifer Lee speaks in this book help with the task. This book is a must read and then a must share with friends.

I recommend reading this book and this is why you will fall in love with It's All Under Control. It will bring peace into your life through the scriptural based Bible verses and reminder that "God's Got It" when we lose sight of putting God at the forefront of our busy lives. Chapter 5 brought tears to my eyes and spoke to my heart. Moments from Chapter 5 that stuck out- "When you want to quit, hear God speak with blazing urgency: 'Do not give up' (2 Chronicles 15:7)" I thank Jennifer for the reminder of this especially in that "middle" hard part of marriage. "Hang on. You might be the miracle someone was praying for." This is just a glimpse of this beautiful book written by a beautiful Author~ Jennifer Dukes Lee.

Jennifer is my kind of person--real, struggling, witty, friendly, (with just a dash of control freak thrown in for good measure--face it we ALL have a dash of control freak in us). She'll help you pinpoint what kind of a controller you are, and how to identify areas in your life where you're holding back on giving control to the One who can really handle it. Each chapter shares a slice of her story and how God showed her areas in her life that she needed to work on. Each chapter has a 'Cracking the Control Code' section with practical advice for dealing with our own controlling tendencies. Whether you met Jesus today or decades ago, this beautiful book is a call to action--the kind of action that results in true rest.

This is hard work. Live the message

This book came along through Bible Study mid-pandemic (2020). Ironically, my word of the year is surrender, which this book reminds you to do constantly. I have filled half a notebook with quotes, verses and reminders from this book. I enjoy Jennifer’s easy style-she will both challenge you and make you laugh. I look forward to reading her other books.

This book has been a God send for me! I'm not sure I can fully explain how much it has helped me in so many areas of my life. I can't say enough good things about this book! Buy it,Buy it!❤

This is 1 of the best books I've read in a while. Very inspiring!

If you struggle with the need to have everything under control like I sometimes do, this book will help you release the anxieties that come with feeling like you always have to have it all together. Through personal stories and biblical truths, Jennifer shows us how to discern when to hold on and when to let go; how to wait well; how to ask for help; and so much more. The 'Decision Tree' and 'Do, Delegate, Dismiss' process Jennifer shares are definitely going in my toolbox to use when life is feeling out of control. My favorite chapter was the one about rest. I'm sure this will be one of those books I will revisit from time to time, gleaning new insights with each rereading.

What a book… it is a must read Opened up my eyes to things I did not realize I was doing

Yet again, Jennifer Dukes Lee hits it out of the park. I grabbed a pen to start underlining, and basically underlined the entire first page. The rest of the book continues on in the same pattern. Jennifer's words feel like you are sitting with your best friend, receiving words of wisdom and a shoulder to lean on as you navigate this world of high demands, impossible expectations, and the never ending list of "things to do". Do yourself a favor...woman to woman...get this book and dive in. Take a breathe and let Jennifer lead you to a place at the feet of Jesus where we can FINALLY let go of the struggle and gain the peace our souls so desperately need.

I am in the middle of this book and there are so many things that resonate with me in each chapter. Jennifer has done an amazing job helping me see that i do not have it all under control, that is just an illusion. She has broken down the issues I struggle with the most and helped me to understand what to hang on to and what to let go of through her impactful writing and the wisdom of God's word. Reading this book...sometimes my heart hurts a little bit looking at how my control issues have hurt those I love the most but I know something beautiful will come from this journey With God's grace.

I would eagerly read anything, ANYTHING, by Jennifer Dukes Lee, so I was super excited to learn of this new book. When I first started reading it, I thought perhaps I was past the time of life where it would be relevant to me, not being that youngish crazy-busy mama anymore. But I was so wrong; this book is for every woman, no matter the age, no matter the stage. Whether we are in the throes of busyness or living in the after-effects of having been that crazy-busy woman in years now past, there is much insight and wisdom to be gained. You'll laugh, you might cry, but you will definitely relate to and learn from this amazing book.

I honestly didn't realize how much of a a control freak I was until reading this book. It not only helped me uncover parts of my personality and bring self awareness, but showed me how to truly make time for rest, let go of things that are unhealthy, and when to know when I've crossed over into unhealthy, self-destructive habits. Jennifer Lee's humor, conversational style, and stories make you feel as though you're right there with her, having a cup of coffee or tea, and my small group loved the video series to accompany the book. I definitely will be recommending this book to many, and will be enforcing its takeaways for years to come.

I loved this book, and it was exactly what I needed! This book is not just for type-A overachievers…it’s also for those of us who are trying to control ourselves, our circumstances, and our lives, and who struggle with what it means to surrender. I love how Jennifer acknowledges that surrender isn’t giving up and doing nothing, but is the first step in living out God’s call…which is often uncomfortable and actually a lot of hard work. This book is full of practical tools to help you discern what is yours to hold on to, and what you need to let go. This book is honest, authentic, funny, and deeply encouraging and motivating. You will love it!

Jennifer Dukes Lee writes with such incredible compassion & authenticity while still calling us out to do the hard things...to let go of the unneeded things while hanging on to the Lord and things He calls us to hang on to. I was captivated by the first few pages and cobbled up every word! Get your own copy and hunker down at your favorite coffee shop, or grab your girlfriends and enjoy reading the book and doing the bible study together. And I bet, page after page, you'll see yourself and your desire to enjoy God's amazing peace will completely surround you and encourage you to let go of the unnecessary control in your life!

"If it's going to be, it's up to ME!" was always my motto. (And if it's going to be done RIGHT I better do it). Thus, I spun myself into a snarling swirl. Snapping at family members and all who came near. Not a pretty picture. But this book shows me WHO really is in charge and what I'm losing by clinging to my imaginary control. (Clinging to hurt feelings, headaches and broken relationships). This book is a wonderful respite from all that and is just what us "control freaks" who live in our fantasy world of accomplishment need!!! Jennifer's honesty, humility and gentle guidance help you make the choices that matter for eternity.

As a ‘recovering’ Control Freak I absolutely knew this book was for me! It’s teaching me that releasing control doesn’t mean I’m failing! How to Surrender what it’s mine to carry so that I can Surrender to God’s plan for me! I have always had a tough time knowing when to let go and when to hold on but I now have some biblical tips for discernment! I’m imagining Jesus as my driver’s ed teacher.....he’s equipped me to drive but still guides me with His compass! I am just now on chapter 9 where I will work through my ‘busy’ to see what I need to Do, Delegate and Dismiss!!!

This book showed up in my life at exactly the time I needed it! I knew I was a control freak that needed to let go, and God decided this summer would be the time I got a huge lesson! I’m so thankful for Jennifer’s journey and encouragement as I had to daily choose to acknowledge and allow God to be in control of my life. He was anyway...I was just too stubborn to see it! If you struggle with control (and lets be honest...who doesn’t!) this book will be a great guide to show you where you struggle and how to relinquish the control you cling to to the One it belongs to.

If you are like most of us, a pro at keeping up the appearance of having it all under control this book is for you. I was quickly swept into Jennifer's relatable stories with practical insights (and actionable steps) that had me aligning my life right back into the Creator's hands. She reached into the depths of my heart with the truth that what we are looking for is "to discover the life we were actually made for - the life of meaning and purpose." The easy to digest truths of this book had me turning away from stress and anxiety and closer to a life under control.

I began reading It's All Under Control not expecting to be so impacted, because after all, I had it all under control! But, after the first few pages I soon understood this book was written just for me. I'm someone who is a Driver, a Devoter, and Darling, all wrapped into one person. These "control characters" in Jennifer's book described how I'm wired in a way I had never quite understood before. This book is giving me permission to shine where God has me and release the burdens of worry and anxiety and give them over to the One who is in control. I'll be re-reading this life-impacting book!

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Jennifer is full of both wisdom and compassion. Reading this was reminiscent of savoring a good cup of coffee with a dear friend, who understands me, makes me laugh, and loves to cheer me on! This book is chock full of practical tips on dealing with the "control freak-ish" behaviors that we all possess to some degree. In fact, Jennifer shares that it's part of our humanness to want to control situations and people, while encouraging us to focus on what God has for us and to not waste our time on what's meant for others. This book is truly a gem!

What a beautiful and needed book right here. One of my favorite takeaways from Jennifer Dukes Lee's book, It's All Under Control is in Chapter 11, which is perfectly titled: Wait: Learning to Pause When You Want to Push. It's so easy for me in a tough situation to take back control and run ahead of God. The truth is, we don't always know why we are prompted to wait. I love Jennifer's quote on page 197. "When you are obedient in the wait, God will be faithful in the work. And you will be awed in the wonder." Pick up your own copy today!

If you've ever felt like you give and give and give and it's still not enough -- for yourself, for others, maybe even for God -- then It's All Under Control is for you. Jennifer Dukes Lee serves as a Surrender Mentor for all of us who try to live life gripping for the control that was never ours to hold. I love how she explains that surrender isn't passive. But rather, an active, ongoing effort to let go of some things, hang on to others, and trust God for the outcome. This book is a guide to freedom so many of us need!

The best thing about this book is that it is filled with relatable experiences and belly-rumbling humor. Or maybe it's the practical steps to making tough decisions... Either way-- I can't get enough of Jennifer's words--every book she's written has taken me on a personal journey but this one is her best yet. I recommend this book to any woman. I dare you to give it just one chapter and see if you can't keep going. I received an early copy of this book from Tyndale Publishers and I also purchased a copy. My review is truly honest, in my own words.

So many great ideas and insights. The study guide really helped to cement ideas. I love that the steps build on each other to get you to a place of rest and peace

Jennifer writes with transparency and vulnerability. God has blessed her with such wisdom and insight! As a woman, I've struggled with feeling like I have to do it all...honor every request, always do things perfect, take on every role I'm asked to...Jennifer writes "We must not confuse our God-given assignments. ...it can be hard to know when to charge forward and when to step back. So I continue to pray this prayer every day: 'Give me the wisdom today, dear Jesus, to know the difference." This book is convicting and teaching...please do yourself a favor and get it...then read it!!

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I’m so grateful for the words of Jennifer Dukes Lee. Such wisdom. There is so little we have control of, but so much still yet to do. Surrender doesn’t mean laying down and giving up all our dreams, goals, or responsibilities. It means showing up as our best selves and trusting God to use our offerings. Resting. Evaluating. Saying "yes" to some things and "no" to others. The author weaves practical ways to balance life with storytelling, humor, and wisdom. I loved this book and will use it as a tool for many seasons to come.

Honestly, I wasn’t sure I wanted to read this book. I know I don’t have it all under control, nor is that my main goal/desire, but I pressed in because I knew Jennifer had a deeper message. It’s All Under Control helped me to see how important it is to root my identity in Christ and His love for me, not in how much I get done, how many things I check off the list and how awesome others think I am. I am the disciple whom Jesus keeps on loving. So grateful for this truth!

Have you ever read a book where you knew that the writer knew all about you? Well, Jennifer Dukes Lee knows us. She is honest, funny and loves connecting to other women. I loved her “Happiness Dare” book and now “It’s All Under Control” is meeting my heart and soul. We all talk about learning self care as women. This is self care for your life and heart. 💕 Don’t hesitate to do this for you.....the subtitle says “A journey of letting go, hanging on and finding a peace you almost forgot was possible.” Oh yes!!!!!

When I first purchased It's All Under Control I had no idea how much my life was getting ready to change. Just weeks after beginning to read this book my mom was diagnosed with cancer. Jennifer's words were just what I needed to remind myself that God is ultimately in control. Through reading this book Jennifer helped me understand I needed to "let go of what God has not asked (me) to do, so (I) can shine at what he has" asked me to do and that is take care of my mom.

Jennifer Dukes Lee is “spot on” in her new book It’s All Under Control. She has written with insight and humor about the way we are trying to navigate our busy lives. If you feel like you are so busy doing things but never finding satisfaction or joy in it all, you need this book. Jennifer has wonderful advise about what to do, delegate, or dismiss to make your life more fruitful and less chaotic. God wants this for us. He is in control if we only let Him be.

I walked into this book thinking it would be one more read telling me to say "no" to everything. Instead, I walked away excited and redirected to embrace with full-fledged passion the things that God has called me to and to throw off all that hinders. To live in the knowledge that I am loved by Jesus, placing that first. Jennifer Dukes Lee once again does an amazing job of weaving personal, relatable and humorous stories with Biblical truth to help women live more fully aware of the lives God has called us to.

You really need to get this book! I can't say enough good things about it! .... Jennifer shares from the heart with wit, wisdom, and winsomness. Like eating food for the soul and a long drink of water you didn't realize you needed at the same time, while talking to a good friend. Challenging and comforting both, have a highlighter handy! Jenifer reminds of who's really in control and that we can rest in the God who knows us better than we know ourselves no matter what is going on in or around us.

This book is amazing!! If you feel like you are running non stop and need a break, but this book!!

I haven't finished this book yet, but already it has been so helpful to me! It helped me realize that my feelings are normal and I'm not the only one who feels like life is out of control when I'm trying so hard to keep it all together! I have a tendency to feel responsible for things that are not my responsibility. This book is helping me figure out which things were given to me by God and which ones are burdens I put on myself. I can't wait to finish it!

I really enjoyed reading Jennifer Dukes Lee's newest book, It's All Under Control. It helped me to relate to several things I'm going through in my life, and gives great personal and Biblical examples of why I need to let God be in control. Her writing style is great, making it a very easy read. Her stories are relevant and often humorous, which makes it fun. It's a great book that will stick with me for a while! I think every age and stage of reader will enjoy this book!

I knew this book was for me. How? 1. It's about control -- something I wish I didn't struggle with. 2. It's by Jennifer Dukes Lee Jennifer writes truth in love. She tells her story, offering her own life as an object lesson to remind you that you are not the only one. But more than that she offers God's truth. This book is changing me in the best ways. It's not one more thing on my never ending to do list. It's real, heartfelt, and full of hope!

God has a beautiful way of telling you exactly what you need to hear at just the time your heart and head are ready to listen. I am so thankful for this incredible new book by Jennifer Dukes Lee. God has used her writing to speak to me in HUGE ways in a season of my life when I desperately needed it. I strongly encourage you to freee yourself and relinquish your desire to control all to the God who has it already all under complete control.

You need this book. You, you, and you too! As soon as I started reading it I felt at peace. To know that I'm not the only one. To know that it's okay to have an off day. To know that you don't have to do it all. To know that holding on is necessary - but letting go is necessary too. Jennifer Dukes Lee is the woman that lives down the road, your best friend, an honest, tell-it-like-it-really-is beautiful person that we all need in our life.

My life is full. My home is busy with five daughters, and I needed something to help me stay above the crazy chaos and not get caught up in it. How I live is not how God ever intended for me, I was caught up running alongside the other moms who struggled instead of stepping back from expectations and aligning myself to the One true voice. Thank you, Jennifer, for being transparent in your struggles so that you can help me in mine.

Jennifer Dukes Lee books are always enjoyable to read, full of wisdom and encouragement, along with practical, easy to implement action steps... not always easy to do, but clear steps to follow. It’s All Under Control is no exception. I think pretty much everyone could use a little encouragement on what to hang on to, what to let go of, and how to best make these decisions. Pick this book up and get on the road some welcome peace for your journey.

Oh my goodness! Jennifer Dukes Lee writes like she's in my head and in my heart once again. Her straightforward writing that's laced with witty commentary will keep you laughing while you're nodding in agreement with the words you're reading. It's almost as if she's sitting on the couch with you instead of miles away... You will NOT regret letting her into your life with her writing. Once again, she hits it out of the ballpark!

This book is EVERYTHING. If you struggle with perfectionism, people pleasing, and anxiety from unknown outcomes or overcommitting yourself, this book will be a breath of fresh air for your weary soul. I love how Jennifer uses witty humor with Biblical truths to drive her main points home. Can’t say enough about this book! Read it!! You’ll turn the last page so grateful that you did.

This book couldn't have come at a better time for me. I have been in the process of losing myself and my way with the crazy, busy life. This book is bringing me back to the here and now. It's helping to remind me of what's more important than being busy and thus crazy. If you are in need of getting yourself back, I recommend this book and Jennifer's other books to read.

This book has given my soul the opportunity to breathe a sigh of relief- I don't, in fact, have to have everything under control. Jennifer Dukes Lee does an amazing feat in this book- she gives us permission to accurately examine what we really need to hang onto, and what's ok to let go of. It's a must-read for all of us that desperately need to find a way to surrender what we cannot control.

Once again, with grace and love, Jennifer allowed the Lord to use her to speak truth into my life. The Lord used this book to convict me of the areas of my life that I was still trying to control. The Lord uses Jennifer’s vulnerability, and the gift for words that He has given her, to help other women seeking to apply His truth in their lives. I highly recommend this book.

I'm not sure how Jennifer Dukes Lee got so far inside my thoughts, but this book was just what my inner control freak needed to hear. With humor and Scripture both brilliantly woven throughout, she offers great illustrations, insights, and practical advice for letting go of control and growing in our reliance on the Lord. Her chapters on waiting and asking for help were especially impactful for me. I highly recommend this book!

Learning to Pause when you want to push. Those words hit me hard. Just one of the many statements in this book that are real and practical. Words written by a Mom and professional who knows the struggles of pushing limits and struggling to say no, or wait... I love Jennifers authentic writing style and vulnerability with her own struggles. Sisters we can ALL relate to this one!

I read this book as I processed a life circumstance that was extremely painful and tempting me to not trust God. It served as a guide for that situation and pointed me toward truths in the bible. This is a great book whether you're a control freak or just a human processing your faith and learning to yield to what the Lord allows in your life and how He directs your life.

How many times can I say “I needed this”? I just about depleted the ink in my highlighter. I loved the analogies and the anecdotes that hit home. I’m hopeful to reprogram my brain to go to God with my plans before I make them. It is all under control- God’s control. And I can’t find rest until I realize that and make it a practice in my life. Women- read this!

As women I think we tend to want to be in control of things in our lives. Jennifer’s book is an awesome reminder that God is in control and helps give us instructions to go from our busy to best. I truly enjoyed this book and applying it to my life. Looking forward to digging in more with the accompanying bible study with a group of women.

Just does not relate to the Bible, but more to the ladies experience...not what I was looking for, as I cannot relate.

Got for wife’s study group

I used to think I had it all under control, yet physical symptoms of stress, anxiety and fear began to take hold.. I cried out to God and He opened my eyes to Jesus.. the burden was lifted and faith took hold... Jennifer Dukes Lee takes us on her journey, leaving behind lessons learned.. join her as she walks you to peace in Him...

I chose to read this book because I thought it would be about God having control over tough situations in my life. To my surprise, I also learned a lot about the things I was trying to control myself and not surrendering to Him. This book is a breath of fresh air from the struggle of control. I feel relief after reading it!

It’s All Under Control came at the perfect time - when my emotions and the desire to control and hold on were at an all time high. Jennifer wrote these words for those of us that need encouragement and for those that encourage others. I have highlighted and underlined almost every page. Definitely a book I will read again and again.

Love the author's writing style! Very easy to read, but also challenging and convicting and relatable. My ladies' group is loving this study!

This book is for everyone who thinks they can control anything and everything! Jennifer writes what probably every woman experiences, whether young or old. Letting go while hanging on is such an appropriate title because letting go doesn’t mean giving up. It’s surrendering! What freedom! What Peace! What joy! Everyone should read this book!

Talk about divine timing! This book came at a time when my family's future was completely uncertain, to now being busy having to sell a house, move, etc. Jennifer’s book has helped me tremendously with how to hang on when God tells me to and when to let go. So much wisdom - and humor! - in this fabulous book.

Jennifer Dukes Lee has written a book that everyone can find meaningful. In "It's All Under Control" Jennifer speaks to the person who "has it all together" on the outside but on the inside struggles to really be happy, and spiritually healthy! Order this book and the accompanying Bible study to get the most out of her writing!

This book showed up at the perfect time in my life. We just had baby #6 and I was struggling to find balance. I was trying to do it all. These pages spoke to my heart and helped me see that I didn't have it all under control. I felt like this book was written just for me.

I loved this book. Jennifer writes in a way that speaks directly to my heart and to my needs. Being a control freak for many years I have found myself beaten and weary. I am blessed by the content of this book and pray earnestly that I can put into practice resting in Jesus! Thank you, Jennifer.

This author is a delight to read and obviously speaks from a place of having worked through giving up on "trying to control everything." If you're still trying to do that and think everything depends on you, you should really read this book. Dukes Lee is funny, honest, transparent, and reads like she's your friend.

It’s All Under Control by Jennifer Dukes Lee is helping me balance giving God my best while remaining busy. Reality is busy will probably always be, but it’s important to balance busy to make sure we give our best to God and this read helps navigate in that direction. Thank you Jennifer for such awesome words!

This book will help you grow like no other. Jennifer shares candid stories of her own journey of "letting go". The book is a beautiful reminder that we don't have to control the universe, since there is Someone already in charge. This book is a must read for any recovering "control freaks".

Jennifer has done it again! The first few pages and I was all in. If you are a busy woman, but even if you are not, this book will bring tears to your eyes and joy to your heart. Your life will be touched and blessed by the words of Jennifer Dukes Lee.

This book is just what busy, do it all women need to be reading. I enjoyed reading it and especially liked that there were action steps at the end of each chapter. That made it easy to apply what I was learning in my own life. Definitely check this one out!

This book has spoken to my exact circumstance, to the wrestling of my spirit, soul, and heart. Don't miss this book! Your inner (or outer) recovering control freak will thank you to infinity and beyond.

Jennifer Dukes Lee has written such a good book. In it, she shares her story of how she learned to surrender control of her life to the Lord. The book is filled with meaningful stories and practical advice to help you learn to do the same. I loved this book.

Just got out of an abusive marriage. I am a single mom with three kids. Doing it all on my own is overwhelming and I feel like I have to have everything under control. This book is perfect for this season.

This book is so insightful about how we try to control everything in our lives, and exhausting ourselves doing it. Read this book if you are that person, you will find balance and peace. You will also find your way to trusting Jesus more!!!! Great book!

I started this book because I love Jennifer's writing so I figured it had to be good. But it was so much more! I felt a lightness reading this book and permission to release my grip on so many things!!

Great book! Written from the heart. I was pulled in after reading the couple of pages. The study guide that goes with it is great too. If I have time I’m going to order for Christmas presents to give to friends.

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I absolutely love this book! It found its way into my world as things were starting to crumble, and was just the reminder I needed that it wasn’t under control anyway. My faith has grown and my world is better because of this book.

Great book with bible study

This is such an encouraging book that really helped me to examine how I do life and to look at my expectations for myself and others. Super thankful that I got to read this at this time.

This book has helped me to understand some reasons behind why I do what I do...and what fear might be driving it. So thankful for the lessons learned in this book. Looking forward to the Bible study when it releases.

I absolutely loved this book! With my youngest heading into kindergarten and me heading back to work after 7 years of being a sahm I was crazier than ever! This came into my life at the perfect time!

This book is such a blessing! Knowing we don’t need to control everything when we let go, is life changing! God has us in the palm of his hand and Jesus is holding it the whole time!

I loved this book. It truly spoke to my heart and my soul. I felt like Jennifer had known me for years and was speaking directly to me. This is a must read.

Loved this book!! I would definitely recommend this one!!

I absolutely love this book. So relevant and loving when helping me understand ways to loosen control.

very inspiritional

This book came at the best time in my life. When I thought my world was going crazy. I could not put this book down until I finished it.

I don’t know how she does it, but Jennifer Dukes Lee is able to write what I need to hear. I love her honest and engaging writing style!

Under control. I aim for this and miss the mark so many times. Refocus and reframe, read this book. Take a deep breath of this wisdom & wonder:)

Loved this book. Bible study at church

Book in good condition.

Good study

I’m not done with it yet but so far it’s a great read! Very helpful!

Good bible study with a girls group

This book was very anecdotal. It took 16 pages, not counting the introduction, to get to the first Bible verse. The next didn't occur till page 35. When looking for Bible studies, I look for ones that a heavily supported by scripture and this book is not it.

Helpful

Loved this.

I find the book a hard read and it will be different for me to make an enjoyable Bible Study for group purchased boos and work book

Almost every day I get a promo in my inbox that is for yet another book on being overwhelmed, overwrought, over busy, and not living the overcoming life. It’s a hot topic, and I just read an article on why time management strategies don’t work for most people over a long period of time. The short answer is that we don’t change the things we do, we just keep trying to manage the way we do them. In conclusion-we’re doing too many unnecessary things that keep us from being productive in the necessary things. And it’s making us crazy. Even if you aren’t a control freak, type A person, this emphasis on managing is likely to make you one. And if you are a control freak, well, you’re just going to get freakier. All of our stories are different, the how’s and why’s we find ourselves in an “over” state. As important as our individual stories are, there is no more important story as the one told to us by the One who made us for Himself. In It’s All Under Control, Jennifer Dukes Lee does a good job of using enough of her story and personality to help us identify the control freak traits we may have with both insight and a fair dose of humor. Importantly, she leaves plenty of room for us to grasp God’s desire for our lives and how we, with His help, can trust Him to keep it all under control. The opening chapters unpack why we have control freak traits, how they get out of control and what is the “kryptonite” that triggers them. There is a thread of affirmation that runs through the book, and in particular these chapters, for the woman who has strong giftings in leadership and administration. These were for the most part refreshing, since the goal was to see these gifts as the tools to be used freely and often, just under the control of the Spirit and not our flesh. The emphasis isn’t on the way we need to be different as much as it is on the way we need to respond differently. It isn’t about changing our personality, but rather allowing our personality to be submitted to God’s will. The rest of the book is spent looking at the things we need to consider letting go of, what things we should hanging on to, and the way to evaluate what is our responsibility and what is not. Dukes Lee’s conversational unpacking of scripture helps us grasp the perspective of God and changes our perception about fear and failure. I’m fond of practical books that have a take-away beyond an encouragement and actually put me on the path of responses that I can apply. This is one of those books, every chapter ends with “Cracking the Control Code” for reflection and some action steps to take. There is also a website where you can go for further practical tools that will help you determine why you respond the way you do, although at the time I read the book all the features were not active on the website. One of the fun things about this book is the many sidebar notes that illuminate traits, triggers, and temptations of the control freak. They reminded me a little of the comedian Jeff Foxworthy’s “You Might Be a Redneck” routines, that format of statements that sum up a group. Dukes Lee does this in a way that is truthful, funny and revealing all at the same time. There are also sidebars that are helpful for summing up the main points of the section or chapter, and I liked this format. Instead of inserting yet another story or another five hundred words on different circumstances that may or may not apply to you, these succinct bullet points keep the main thing the main thing. The control freak in me was convicted, encouraged and exhorted throughout the book, and while I sometimes felt it was a little longer than it needed to be, I took away a sense of relief from self-imposed pressures after I finished it. So if you find yourself identifying with any of the “over’s” and are ready to overcome, you will be blessed to find out how in It’s All Under Control. Thank you to Tyndale for providing threeladiesoflit.com with a complimentary copy to review.

Believe me when I say: A photo will never be a reflection of reality. I thought about that a lot while reading this. I am very pleased to meet fresh, vivacious, original authors who are brave enough to talk about the uncomfortable, what everyone tries to hide under a beautiful facade of "control" (I should speak in plural while I say that). I do not know how she can mix serious topics with such a natural sense of humor, it's strange that I "relaxed" like this, while reading. Since Eve, the women have had a fierce struggle for control, and it is very useful and interesting to learn how the battle of each one looks in this aspect. It is very nice to perceive the essence of an author through her lyrics and I believe that this book will open very interesting conversations among women. If you have not acquired it today is a good day to do it. I received this book as a gift in exchange for my sincere opinion, it was a pleasure to refresh my mind and put things in the right perspective (when things tend to get out of the expectations you had). It is my first meeting with this author and I am sure that I will be attentive to her upcoming works. I share with you some quotes: "My desire to obsessively orchestrate what happened next was buring me out"... "...it took me years to see how I’d built a new identity around my ministry work. One form of work perhaps looked holier than the other, but in both cases, I found myself experiencing a case of mistaken identity— estimating my worth based on my usefulness." "...don’t let your worth be tied to how well you come through for people. Don’t let your motivation be “I have to do this, or no one else will.” ... Our robust inner control freaks will feel the external pressure to say yes because we don’t want to disappoint anyone.... But look, [when your identity is in Jesus], your essential self will step out from behind all of that productivity to say, “Here I am, the disciple whom Jesus keeps on loving, no matter what.” Even if you disappoint someone." "The busier you are, the more you need to rest.... You don’t need to quit everything; you need a break so you can refuel.... It’s true: A lack of adequate rest can hinder your creativity and ability to tackle your workload." You can find the book here and the study guide here. Description “It’s All Under Control is the gift your soul has been desperately seeking—to feel how His arms of love are under you, carrying you though it all.” —Ann Voskamp, New York Times bestselling author of The Broken Way and The Greatest Gift It’s time to get our control under control. Jennifer Dukes Lee never thought she struggled with control. As long as everything went exactly the way she wanted it to, she was totally flexible. But then Jennifer discovered what happens when you try to wrap your arms around everything, thinking it’s all on you: You get burned out on hustle. You toss and turn more at night, and you laugh less during the day. You’re so busy—caring, serving, working, and trying so hard—that you can’t even hear God’s voice anymore. It’s All Under Control is a book for every woman who is hanging on tight and trying to get each day right—yet finding that life often feels out of control and chaotic. Join Jennifer on the journey of learning how to: Overcome the anxieties and worries that burden your heart. Prioritize your busy life so you can make choices that align with God’s best for you. Find freedom through a new “Do, Delegate, or Dismiss” approach to your daily tasks. Let go of what God has not asked you to do, so you can shine at what he has. Discover a new way of living that will free you to be you, and finally experience the peace of knowing a God who truly has it all under control. Perhaps we believe that the opposite of control is confusion, but no, the antonym of control is faith. #ItsAllUnderControl #NetGalley Hardcover, 288 pages Published September 18th 2018 by Tyndale Momentum ISBN 1496430468 (ISBN13: 9781496430465)

Since I've started reading this book, I've had to come to terms with the fact that I am very much not in control. My kid turned another year older and is starting high school, no control over that. The lawn mower decided to stop working, we fixed it but still, can't control when that will happen. My computer stopped working and had to get a new one, can't control that. One of our cats has been sick for the past week and it's not looking so good for her, can't control that. All sorts of small things busting, breaking, ripping, just not doing what I expect of them. But this book, it's about more than just those things that are out of your control. It's also about empowering you to really grasp and take charge of the things you are in control of. The overarching message that I got while reading this book is "There are some things that only I can do. I can't pawn them off on others and I can't ignore them to take on work that isn't mine in the first place." I have to be me and do what I was created to do. There are several quizzes, flowcharts, etc in the book and available as a free resource on the book's website that are meant to help you figure out where you're needed and where you need to let go. This book is a great tool for not just those that pride themselves on being busy but all of us who are connected with the world. There are things that we are in control of, things that we are the only ones that can make the decisions about for our life. And we need to make sure that we aren't wasting time taking care of so many other things that we aren't responsible for because we feel like no one else will do them, or do them as well as us, or even because we've always done it and don't know how to quit. I could tell you about all the chapters and ideas discussed but the truth is, I have a feeling that this is one of those books that everyone who reads it will discover something different inside. Some will hear one thing, the next something completely different. For me, the book ultimately brings to mind one of my favorite quotes from the movie The Holiday "You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life." And if you're too busy playing bit and side roles then when are you ever going to take on the things that are meant to make you shine? A free copy of this book was given to me by Tyndale Publishing House for the purpose of review. I'm never required to share a positive review but I'm always thankful when I can

Honestly, I know that check marks on my to-do list thrill me, and I like life to be neat, tidy, and totally under my control. But somehow I didn't expect this book to not only wear out my highlighter, but also to speak deeply into my heart. Jennifer Dukes Lee writes with such warmth (and she's laugh-out-loud funny) that you'll feel as if you are sitting at her farmhouse table over coffee trading stories of God meeting you in the places you thought you had it all together, and laughing over how much better His plan (and story for you) is than anything you could've come up with for yourself. The book begins by inviting us to take a closer look at ourselves - to figure out why we are the way we are - in a gentle, curious way. I love that Jennifer writes from a place of honesty and shares her struggles with control as she helps readers discover more about themselves as she outlines three "control characters" - and surely you will find yourself nodding along at the description of at least one of them. There were so many powerful statements in the book as she shares what she's learned about control and how partnering with Him helps us re-align our priorities, create space in our souls, and put down what God never asked us to carry while we pick up what is truly ours to hold and tend. Here are a few... When it's hard to admit that you need some help: "I had built my image as the helper, not as the helped." (p. 9) When we start to rely on Him rather than ourselves: "When we stop trying to be Jesus, the astonishing result is that we actually become more like him." (p. 37) On letting go and trusting Him: "We will never know if we can trust Jesus if we don't give him the chance to prove it." (p. 101) On creating space in your life: "You can't control and connect at the same time." (p. 155) I really found myself in the pages of this book. Jennifer's story resonates with my own in many ways, and her journey to partnering with Him is one I am now inspired to begin afresh now that I realize how much healthier, happier, and more effective I can be when I "take God off my to-do list." If you want to know more about what that means and to learn some really simple but effective prayers that Jennifer prays daily to help her with all this, you'll have to pick up a copy of the book! Oh, and be sure to have spare highlighters handy. Trust me...you'll need 'em! I was given a free copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.

Twenty years ago, my husband and I made one of the most difficult decisions of our married life: we decided to leave a church and to worship elsewhere. Leaving behind dear people we loved (and likely offending more than one person in the process), we left that fellowship convinced that God was telling us it was time to let go. Soon, our roots were planted deeply in the good soil of another church family. They welcomed us with warmth and enthusiasm and the years have flown. The church with the white steeple and the red doors is home to us and to our sons, but, quite honestly, there have been seasons when it was not a joy to be there–hard seasons of pastoral searches, dry spells when nothing seemed to click, frustrating years when I would scan the horizon for a sign–sky writing, a whisper from the Word, ANYTHING that would release us and give us a green light to let go. I was tired of holding on, but the clear assignment from God was to do that very thing, and I’m thankful now that we did. In It’s All Under Control: A Journey of Letting Go, Hanging On, and Finding a Peace You Almost Forgot Was Possible, Jennifer Dukes Lee devotes two full chapters and a lot of wisdom to the tightrope walk of hanging on and letting go. It turns out that “Let Go and Let God” may not be the best advice all the time, but there are also times when letting go is a true mark of bravery. It was good news to hear that “gospel living is not an either/or question. It’s both/and. It’s coming back to that fork in the road every day–with every decision, every obligation, and every relationship–and asking God to help you choose.” (77) This is a recipe for living surrendered, and it comes back to persevering through the hard work, believing through the messy middle, and practicing the spiritual discipline of active trust. Persevere through the Hard Work “Just because something is hard work, doesn’t mean it’s wrong or should be abandoned.” (85) God may call you to write a book, start a new career, or to persevere through a hard season with a needy friend. It is also likely that at some point you will be called into the hard work of letting go, of opening your hands to release grown children, to relinquish a project that has gone off the rails or a task that is not yours to do. The privilege and the challenge of this following life is living close to Truth so when God’s voice comes, our ears are accustomed to its pitch and timbre, and our hearts are in good shape for the hard work of obedience. Believe in the Messy Middle Living on the horns of a dilemma is just as uncomfortable as the metaphor sounds. We reach a point where we want ANY decision that will take the place of indecision, and yet holding on in the midst of the unknown is a powerful affirmation that we are not in control of the situation and are yielding to the One who is. When guidance comes, if God calls you to hang on, He has the end of the rope alongside you. However, if you are called to release instead and to move on in faith, Jennifer reminds readers that “for everything you’ve ever let go, Jesus is still hanging on.” (107) Practice the Discipline of Active Trust Does it help your heart to know that God knows the end result of your holding on/letting go dilemma? It is entirely true that we may “have to wait until heaven to know he was trustworthy in all that is yet to unfold in our lives. But until then, we have a choice. We can trust him with all that we are because we believe he is all he says he is. He hasn’t done all that we wanted, but he has done all that is right.” (108) Releasing our white-knuckle control over every aspect of our lives (and those we love) is fueled by that relationship of trust. The prophet Isaiah painted a picture of the point of release around seven hundred years before the birth of Christ. He did not know your situation, whether you are struggling to let go or straining to hold on, but his words come as fresh reassurance today: “Your teacher will be right there, local and on the job, urging you on whenever you wander left or right: ‘This is the right road. Walk down this road.'” (Isaiah 30:21, MSG) May we find grace to wait, to listen, and then to follow, Michele Morin Many thanks to Tyndale House Publishers for providing a copy of this book to facilitate my review, which, of course, is offered freely and with honesty.

"You don't have to be more than you are. But you also don't have to be less." That quote is the message of this entire book, and it is a message that so many of us need. Goodness, it took me a while to get through this book, not because it's large or difficult to digest, but just because of my own time commitments and such. Amazingly, the message of this book kept me from feeling guilty for not finishing when I intended to or feeling to the need to put other things aside to speed up my reading. I know that sounds silly but when you have reading goals and reviewing goals, then sometime the pressure is on to read even more often and speed read when possible. This wasn't the type of book that I wanted to speed read. There were parts that didn't speak to me personally, although I believe they would speak to another women in a different situation. But then some chapters, I highlighted nearly every word...literally. Sections of this book could be read and reread consistently just as sweet, fresh reminders of who we, who we can be be and are meant to be, and why God needs us to remain ourselves and not copy everyone else. I love the 3 personality definitions that she gives--I am 100% a "Darling" according to her categories--and the scriptures and guides that she gives for each characterization are spot on. I love that she gives motivations, kryptonites, mottos for healthier living and key verses to lean on for each (The Driver, the Devoter and the Darling). Also, the cover is beautiful and the writing style is so relatable! Will read more from this author!

It’s All Under Control by Jennifer Dukes Lee is a phenomenal book; one of my favorite books I have read this year. I honestly loved every chapter but I want to share with you one practical tool that has helped me this fall. Jennifer encourages us to examine our schedule and place items into one of 3 categories: “Do: These are assignments that you consider essential or that you simply enjoy. Delegate: These are assignments that you will turn over to someone else. Dismiss: These are assignments that you will have to let go of, without guilt.” What has God called you to do? What God assignment do you need to complete? Whatever it is: leading, mentoring, volunteering, writing… Take that next step! I love what Jennifer says in her book, “You surrender outcomes but you don’t surrender effort. God will call you to do hard things, and with his Spirit pulsing through you, you are more than able.” I love this reminder that we surrender the outcomes but we still need to do the hard work! If I am completely honest, delegating can be hard for me. Does anyone else struggle with delegating? I like to be the one “doing” but I am learning to ask for help from others. In my teaching, I have parent helpers for copying and prepping. At home, I delegating more chores to the kids: dishes, dishwasher, trash, laundry… this is freeing up more time for me to do what God has asked me to do. As I examine what I can dismiss, I am learning that sometimes it is a good thing that I have to say no to so I can make room for a better thing. Sometimes my best yes is rest. In Jennifer’s book, she says, “The busier you are, the more you need to rest.” I am finding this to be so true. I cannot always make it to every social event, sometimes my body needs to rest and recuperate. For me, reading a book rejuvenates me! What rejuvenates you? What do you need to dismiss to make time for you? Life gets busy quickly so we have to be intentional. But most of all, we want to invite God into our schedules. Jennifer shares a wonderful prayer in her book that we can say each day: “God help me to make choices today that honor your plans for my life.” I highly recommend this book! It is life changing.

If, like me, you're someone who likes to be in control, who sometimes feels responsible for everyone and everything, who feels the pressure of being reliable and dependable, who sometimes worries that if they don't do something it won't be done (at least not properly) then this book is for you! It is honest about the challenges of surrendering control and why many of us struggle with it, and it is also convicting as it points out how it can be easy to say we trust in God but much harder to put it into practice. While it is convicting, the book is also encouraging, acknowledging that there are often good motives behind our desire to take control- it's because we care or because we want to look after others and make them happy. While we need to be aware that pride can masquerade as love at times, there is also encouragement that reliability and dependability are positive traits and that they are not something to be "fixed" but they are part of our God-given personality, that God wants us to give them to him not so we become passive, but so that we can partner with him in the work he is doing. The book is also full of helpful practical advice, acknowledging that we can't just let go of all our responsibilities, that surrender goes a lot deeper than "just give it all to Jesus." There are exercises to help with evaluating and prioritising responsibilities, making time for rest and learning to ask for help, and lots of personal stories to illustrate the points being made and to make it practical. I also appreciated the acknowledgement that sometimes we let go of control and surrender to God and it doesn't turn out as we hope or expect. We step out in faith to do something challenging and are left wondering why. I have certainly been there, but I was encouraged by the exhortation to trust that God sees the big picture, to believe that he is often at work in ways which are unseen to us, which may make sense one day, either on earth or in heaven. Hebrews 12:1 states that as we run the race of faith we should "strip off every weight that slows us down" (NLT) and this book provides valuable help in doing this in the area of control.

It's All Under Control is the second book I've read by Jennifer Dukes Lee. I really enjoy her tone; she gives me the sense of reading a friend: kind of like a chirpier, less erratic and outrageous Jen Hatmaker. If we were in high school at a football game, Jennifer Dukes Lee would be a cheerleader (for Jesus); Jen Hatmaker would be wearing face paint, hooping and hollering, and running amok (for Jesus); and I would be in the bleachers with the marching band (for Jesus). Anyway. In her very accessible, cheerful way, Jennifer Dukes Lee writes about three control characters: the Driver, the Devoter, and the Darling. This helped me make sense of why my husband and I each insist the other is controlling: we're controlling in different ways! He's so eaten up with Driver that he grinned when I read the explanation to him. I may be 0% Driver but have some Devoter and Darling in me. Point being: even if you don't think you're controlling, Jennifer Dukes Lee's words will probably resonate with you in some way. At the end of the day, It's All Under Control is about discernment. It's about figuring out what to hold on onto and what to let go of, and when: how to evaluate all the pieces of one's life and make decisions about what to do, delegate, and dismiss. The answers are going to be different for everyone, but my greatest takeaway (and comfort) is that I don't have to hold onto or let go of anything forever: that, with God's help, I can choose every day, for that day. I appreciated Jennifer's suggestion that we pray specifically to the Holy Spirit for guidance, and I loved what she shared about both our maintaining our core values/boundaries and pausing to wait on the Lord; we don't always (or even often!) know what He's doing. Ultimately, the Devoter in me values these words from Jennifer Dukes Lee: "You can't control and connect at the same time" (155). Through It's All Under Control, she has given me a few new tools for my toolbox, and I do recommend this book to everyone I know...but especially the weary among you. I received a copy of It's All Under Control in exchange for my honest review. The views expressed in this review are all my own. (Brandee Shafer, Mrs. James Galyon)

Synopsis: Jennifer Dukes Lee never thought she struggled with control. As long as everything went exactly the way she wanted it to, she was totally flexible. But then Jennifer discovered what happens when you try to wrap your arms around everything, thinking it’s all on you: You get burned out on hustle. You toss and turn more at night, and you laugh less during the day. You’re so busy—caring, serving, working, and trying so hard—that you can’t even hear God’s voice anymore. It’s All Under Control is a book for every woman who is hanging on tight and trying to get each day right—yet finding that life often feels out of control and chaotic. Join Jennifer on the journey of learning how to: Overcome the anxieties and worries that burden your heart Prioritize your busy life so you can make choices that align with God’s best for you Find freedom through a new “Do, Delegate, or Dismiss” approach to your daily tasks Let go of what God has not asked you to do, so you can shine at what he has Discover a new way of living that will free you to be you, and finally experience the peace of knowing a God who truly has it all under control. My Thoughts: This book will not disappoint you! This is a book for anyone who feels like the world is pressing in on them, a person who has to be in control of every aspect of their lives. For a lot of us, it is hard to let go of the reins and let God take control. In this book, author Jennifer Dukes Lee takes us on a journey to show us how to let God take back the control He needs in our lives. I highly recommend this book, if you find yourself full of busyness, or say you're too busy to read it.. then you need it! I received this book free from the publisher. I was not required to write a positive review and the opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

This was a GREAT book! It didn’t feed my flesh so that I felt good about what I was doing (wanting and trying to be in control). It did, however, hit me direct...with love. The author was so real!!! I really don’t have the words to adequately articulate how good this book is for someone like me. I rewound so many times. I probably need to go through the book again. It is sooo rich! I was NOT given a free copy of this book! 🙂

Have you ever felt so "crazy busy" that you were burnt out from burning the candle at both ends, be everything to everyone, do it all, or have it all "under control"? Do you feel like you're letting everyone down when you say No or can't commit to ONE. MORE. THING? Do you struggle with being "good enough" for everyone else and neglecting being the best YOU that you can be? Well, sister, this book was written for you! Jennifer Dukes Lee is a wonderful writer, her books are filled with wisdom, Scriptural insights, and humor. She makes me laugh, cry, and think...usually all in the same paragraph! This book was no exception, and while reading it and doing the exercises Jennifer shares, I explored some of those "uncomfortable places" in my soul that have been neglected for far too long, and were wearing out from the constant struggle of holding on, keeping up appearances, and worry. Thanks to the practical and scripturally based applications in Jennifer's book, I am learning how to quiet the chaos and replenish myself with the One Voice that calms all anxiety, fear, and doubt. I'm learning that my relationship with God can't be one of the neatly ticked boxes on my to-do list. I'm learning that "sometimes bravery is letting go when all you want to do is hold on for dear life". I have a voice in my head, screaming at me all the things I "should" be, do, listen to, emulate. I'm learning, with the help of this wonderful book, that it's ok to let go when appropriate, ask for help even though it may be the last thing you want to do, and that sometimes God asks us to do the excruciatingly hard work of holding on, even if we may need to wait "all the way to Heaven" to find out why. Told in her signature style of wit and wisdom, Jennifer accompanies her readers on a journey of self-discovery and faith building exercises while sharing her experiences, struggles, and humorous stories of her own challenges in surrendering control to the only One who truly does have it "All Under Control". I loved this book, and highly recommend it!

As soon as I heard about this book, I wanted to read it, and it did not disappoint! You don't have to be a full-on control freak to benefit from it. The chapters that resonated most with me were "Awesome" (I don't have to be awesome all the time!) and "Rest." Here are a few of my favorite quotes: "...it took me years to see how I’d built a new identity around my ministry work. One form of work perhaps looked holier than the other, but in both cases, I found myself experiencing a case of mistaken identity— estimating my worth based on my usefulness." "...don’t let your worth be tied to how well you come through for people. Don’t let your motivation be 'I have to do this, or no one else will.' ... Our robust inner control freaks will feel the external pressure to say yes because we don’t want to disappoint anyone.... But look, [when your identity is in Jesus], your essential self will step out from behind all of that productivity to say, 'Here I am, the disciple whom Jesus keeps on loving, no matter what.' Even if you disappoint someone." "The busier you are, the more you need to rest.... You don’t need to quit everything; you need a break so you can refuel.... It’s true: A lack of adequate rest can hinder your creativity and ability to tackle your workload." "We seriously have no clue. We really don't. We have no clue what God is doing in places we cannot see. We have no clue what happens to so many of the seeds we plant. We have no clue what God intends when we let Him control our to-do list.... Handing over control to God is an invitation to cluelessness. Do not fear it: that's where the story gets really good." I want to re-read it again and discuss it with a couple good friends. I think this book - If we really take its message into our real lives - could be life-changing. And incredibly freeing!

I love everything Jennifer Dukes Lee writes, and her latest book, It’s All Under Control, is no exception! It’s not about time management or even life management, but a good God who manages to offer us purpose and peace in the midst of life’s demands. Because *He* has it all under control, and because He loves us, we can trust Him without taking things into our own hands. With her trademark transparency, Jennifer combines personal story-telling with practical counsel from God’s Word. She shows us how she lived under the illusion that not only should she control her circumstances, but that she *could.* In her genuine desire to serve others, she thought she alone had to carry the weight of the world. Then one day Jesus invited her to let Him take control, and she started to take her directions from Him. And that’s the day that everything changed. God showed her what to “do, delegate, and dismiss,” and she was finally freed from relentless busyness to engaging only in what He deemed best. She continued to use her God-given gifts in serving others and doing what she loved, just more selectively. And when she released to others those things that were not God’s “assignment” for her, she enabled people to shine for Him themselves. Though I’m past the career stage in life and my daughter is grown, I still need Jennifer’s wisdom more than ever! I want to make a significant difference in my remaining years, and I do not want to hinder God’s plan for my life. So I’m following Jennifer’s example, by surrendering the reins to Him, allowing Him alone to reign over my life. The result? He’s raining down the best blessings of peace, purpose, and power to live a life that pleases Him and helps others. I highly recommend this book. Buy it, but also buy extra copies for family and friends. They’ll need it. Help them transform their “busy” to their “best,” God’s way. What a difference you and they will make in our over-bustling, overwhelmed, and over-burdened world! --Lynn D. Morrissey, author of Love Letters to God: Deeper Intimacy through Written Prayer

Most of us would rather not consider ourselves as “controlling” but in reality, there may be a little of the controlling factor in each of us. If we but scratch below the surface, we may even find it hidden there below the surface: Do you toss and turn at night trying to figure out situations? Do you get up out of bed to pace and pray because the worries are too heavy? Do you find the days are not long enough to get everything accomplished? See what I mean – there’s a little bit of “control” in each of us. In her book, It’s All Under Control, Jennifer Dukes Lee shares her journey of letting go, of hanging on, and of finding peace. This is a book for us all since we’re all a little controlling. Jennifer wisely points out that in our attempts to keep everything orderly and controlled, life gets away from us. Life often gets more out of control and chaos rushes in. In a world that encourages self-sufficiency, Jennifer encourages and leads us to discover how to make choices that will align with God’s plan and best for our lives. Every chapter includes exercises titled “Cracking the Control Code” designed to help us evaluate our responsibilities, figure out how to make time for rest while learning it’s OK to ask for help. Jennifer writes with a warm and engaging style, weaving her personal stories into each chapter with both wit and humor. Each of her books is hard to put down for this very reason – she becomes a dear friend with each turn of the page. The book is a must read for every woman because there’s a struggle with control to be found in us all. I found myself nodding in agreement and with each nod, my heart bending towards surrender in increasing measure. *Tyndale House Publishers has provided me with a complimentary copy of this book. The opinions are all my own.

I’ve been a control freak as long as I can remember. Jennifer’s wise book is helping me take an honest look at myself while basking in God’s grace. She writes with humor and encouragement, gently prodding you to hold on to what’s most important while letting go of what weighs you down. Her anecdotes are funny and smart, and they show that she really gets me. I love the poignant glimpses of her Iowa farm life, which inspire me to look closer at the details of my own world. I know I need to make changes, like being kinder to myself and not taking on so much responsibility. This book gives many practical tips on how to make those changes. The sidebars are loaded with thought-provoking questions and action items to help me manage my responsibilities while relaxing in God’s embrace. This is a book I will return to again and again. It holds me accountable as a recovering perfectionist. If you struggle with anxiety, overwhelm, and a temptation to control, It’s All Under Control is exactly the kind of book you need. It will give you a boost of hope while strengthening your faith. Favorite Quotes from It’s All Under Control - I have loved the steady comfort of control, even though it was an illusion. - I said I trusted God but had reached the point where I realized I actually didn’t. - All of this doing and striving was supposed to bring me happiness. With great surprise, I realized that it wasn’t working out that way at all. - We execute plans to control this out-of-control life because we fear what will happen if we don’t. - I have spent too much time putting Jesus on my to-do list and calling it good. Let’s ask for his list instead. - He is with us as we figure out how to let go–and how to hang on. Thanks goes out to Tyndale for providing me a review copy of this excellent book.

Our plates are full of everything from our responsibilities to the things we have taken upon ourselves to do. Control is something we crave. We want to manage and do and be everything to everyone in our lives. It is exhausting, but there doesn’t seem to be a way out of the busy we have and have created for ourselves. All because we want control. Jennifer Dukes Lee knows this well from her own journey of releasing control and reclaiming the life she thought she had lost to busy and striving. It’s All Under Control is her invitation to us to overcome our anxieties; prioritize our lives to align with God’s best; find freedom through do, delegate, and dismiss; and let go of what God has not asked us to do. These pages are for every woman who has clinched fists around her days, trying to get everything right, but knows the pain of the chaos of life. We can have peace knowing that God truly has it all under control. As we speak I am over committed when it comes to book launch teams, because I thought that if I did not jump on it no one else would. I see the call and my book loving heart signs up. This is just a small glimpse of my need for this message. Jennifer does a beautiful job in weaving humor, tears, and truth within these pages. I have underlined like a crazy person. I do not think I am alone in saying I have a control problem that likes to masquerade as loving well, doing my best, and being faithful. My intentions may be good, but my heart definitely needs a realignment. It’s All Under Control is a great companion on that journey to realigning your heart and mind with what is true: with God it is all under control. I highly recommend this book, it going in my permanent collection. I will be rereading this message for years to come.

I feel like this book is such a beautiful gift. For so many of us who strive to keep it all together, yet lose our joy in the process, Jennifer Dukes Lee does a wonderful job of encouraging the reader to manage well the things God asks us to, but leave the rest of the things in His capable hands. Jennifer kindly and gently addresses the reasons many of us justify controlling everything in our lives and the lives of those we love, but she doesn't let us stay there. She gives a practical, Biblical approach to seeking the heart of God for our lives and finding peace in the process. I love her honesty as she shares her own journey and "work in progress." A few of my favorite quotes: "Spiritual surrender is more complex than any Christian platitude. And it's far more uncomfortable. I knew that if I said yes to his invitation, this partnership with Jesus would ask something of me. It would ask for all of me. It will ask for all of you too." "In other words, our work can't be the source of our identity. Our work should be an extension of our truest identify: in Christ." "As much strength as it takes to hang on, for a woman like me, it takes even more to let go. Letting go has always seemed - if I'm honest - dangerous." "What I'm learning is this: The world doesn't need me to rescue it; sometimes, it needs me to step away, find my chill, and wait while God does the work he is fully capable of doing." So even if you are one of the few who don't struggle with letting God have control, I still encourage you to read this book to have practical tools to help those around you who may be burdened under the weight of trying to carry it all. Thanks, Jennifer!

From the very first chapter, I related to every word she wrote. “My preference was a tidy, predictable, safe life where no one got hurt, where my kids remained in one piece, where there was no pain for anyone ever again, amen.” And if you know me, and how I’ve faced my fear of being lost while driving, you know I’d gladly accept the invitation in the first chapter—to climb into Jesus’ old Honda and let Him take the wheel. “But make no mistake: There are times when he’s going to ask you to do some driving. Don’t think of Jesus as your chauffeur; he is more like your driver’s ed coach. He’s there to teach you his rules of the road. Friend, do not fear the wheel. You have been equipped to drive—and Jesus is beside you when you steer the wrong way.” In chapter 4, Jennifer Dukes Lee introduces us to three control characters—the Driver, the Devoter, and the Darling. Each character has different strengths and weaknesses. It was no surprise when the quiz described me to a T—the Darling “who fears what you’ll think of her if you see her flaws.” Her strengths include seeing the best in others and readily offering praise to motivate those around her. Each character has a kryptonite; mine is criticism. “Her inability to meet all of the unrealistic expectations she sets for herself can lead to feelings of worthlessness.” Knowing our control character will help us make better choices and course-correct when our inner control freak is triggered. When I sense I’m losing my grip on life— It’s then I realize, I’ve got to get “my control under control.” And instead say, “God’s got this!” This is an excellent book, full of humor and practical application for the woman who struggles to get everything right. I received a free copy from Tyndale Publishing for participating in the launch team.

In her newest book, Its All Under Control, Jennifer Dukes Lee helps women better understand what it means to surrender to God's plan for their lives. That might mean giving up some things, but it will also mean hanging on tightly to that which God has called you, although it may be overwhelmingly hard at times. Jennifer writes like you & she are having tea on comfy couches together and she explains that this message is one she has had to live out before she could write it. She uses scripture and explains practical strategies for readers to examine their lives, determine what God is asking of them, practice waiting on God, and ask for help. The Cracking the Control Code at the end of each chapter includes practical action steps to help put the concepts in the chapter into practice in your life. I especially related to Jennifer when she wrote about her realization that at one point she didn't carefully guard her relationship with Christ because she was afraid of His plan and afraid of feeling out of control. Her accompanying Bible study takes the book to a deeper spiritual level, really relying on scripture. I think there are so many great facets to this book, like how to surrender & what that looks like, the importance of obeying God even when it doesn't make sense, how to choose what to do and what to say no to, how to delegate, and the importance of waiting on the Lord instead of rushing & running ahead. In addition, those of us with control issues can find out our control type, how God intends for us to use those strengths, and what it looks like when we are operating on our own instead of through Him. I can't think of anyone in my life that wouldn't benefit in some way from this book, even if they don't have control issues. You won't regret this read!

It’s All Under Control, by Jennifer Dukes Lee, has been a refreshing, delightful read. Lee writes to the hearts of her readers. Her stories and words resonated with my heart. Made me laugh. And at times, brought out a few tears. She has a way of drawing a reader into the stories she shares and weaving in life-giving truths along the way. Her writing is authentic and challenging. I’ve laughed, I’ve cried and I’ve nodded my head in complete agreement about the things she shared. 
One aspect about this book I loved is that she doesn’t write as a person who’s got this control thing all figured out. She writes from the trenches of her own experiences and lessons learned. For me, this was one of the most endearing things about this book. Lee brings out many truths, one of which is, as women, we are not called to do it all, but we should walk out the callings God has given us with confidence. She brings to light beautiful truths about surrender . . . what it is . . . and isn’t. This has been one of my most favorite nonfiction books in years. This woman feels deeply and writes with beauty, pulling the reader into the journey through her stories. Her engaging voice made me laugh out loud at times. And the way she brings around the point of each chapter has challenged me to think about how I view control and surrender. Her words read as a conversation between friends, not a dissertation. People who enjoy books that challenge them to think about what they believe, that give practical suggestions for change, and that encourage them, will love this book. I received a copy of this book from the publisher with the agreement that I would leave my honest review.

It’s All Under Control by Jennifer Dukes Lee This book has been such a blessing in my life. As a very busy mom of 4 who is always putting everyone else's needs far above her own and trying to juggle all the things, I appear as though I have everything together and that I am "supermom," but on the inside, I feel as though I can barely keep my head above water. While I am always the first to offer up help, I find it incredibly difficult to accept and ask for help myself. Jennifer's use of analogies color the perfect picture of my struggles and paint a picture to what I've been feeling. Early on, she writes "Imagine that it's you who's run out of gas. Maybe that doesn't take much imagining after all, because like me, you're tired of trying to hold it all together." That's exactly how I feel, as though I'm running on empty; burning the candle at both ends; running out of steam. Jennifer's beautiful words speak to my soul in this season I'm in and have given me the ability to breathe a little easier as I walk through her "cracking the control code" advice and steps to knowing what to let go of and when to hang on. God is the one in control and I need to learn to find rest in that truth. She shares three control characters: drivers, darlings and devoters, all of which I am. I love how she breaks down the superpowers of these different types of people, but also reminds us of what can get in our way (our worst traits). I can't recommend this book enough if you find yourself struggling with control issues, are trying to do all the things for everyone, suffer from anxiety, or are struggling to breathe because you are drowning.

This a book I would never have bought for myself. A friend gave it to me for my birthday. I read the cover and thought it sounded good. But I also thought I didnt struggle with control. I thought I didnt need this book. But as soon as I read the introduction, I knew this was for me. This book really put me through the wringer emotionally. I felt angry, sad, frustrated, and ashamed. This book gave me a look into my own heart. What I saw often wasn't pretty. But the chapter that broke me wide open is the one on asking help. I have such a hard time with this. I dont want to admit to anyone, especially myself, that there are times when I need help. It doesn't matter how small or minor. Asking someone for a favor or help feels like I'm asking someone for their firstborn. I've realized that this is rooted in two things: fear and pride. This is a book that I need to read again and ponder. Do yourself a favor and get this book. Even if you think you don't struggle with control. You probably do in one way or another. If you KNOW you struggle with control, then you need this book even more. If you are open to it, God will use this book to speak to you in a powerful. I truly believe that God led my friend to buy this book for me.

As a schoolteacher, I have struggled with maintaining "control" in my classroom. This book, written by Jennifer Dukes Lee, will walk you through allowing God to be in control. When your heart is at peace, your peace will transform your environments and you will see that need for control absolved. When God is the one at the helm, your boat will sail through even the roughest of waves without losing direction! I didn't realize how much I was trying to do things in place of God, because my motives were to serve Him. This book helped me see that I can serve God from a place of rest, where the outcomes will be in His hands and His timing, and I can experience true peace and joy. As a school teacher, this book was SO timely for me! I have been at peace in my classroom this year, instead of the old habits of stress and panic when it seemed I had 'lost control' of my classroom. I have learned to let God be in control, and that peace that passes all understanding is His blessed covering over each class and each day. This book makes a great gift for the "super mom" in your life, the working mom in your life, the school teachers, and all others who care so much. We are experiencing caregiver burnout at huge rates, and it's all addressed in this amazing book. When you read this for yourself, you will want to share it immediately with everyone else who in their heart of hearts just want to do a good job. A favorite quote from the book is "When we stop trying to be Jesus, the astonishing result is that we actually become more like him. We begin to hear him speak more clearly." -Jennifer Dukes Lee

When I opened the pages of Jennifer Dukes Lee’s newest book, It’s All Under Control, I was uncertain about how this book might impact my own life. I was no longer working the non-stop schedule that had filled my life for multiple decades. That was no longer the pattern of my days; but even as a retired person my interests and passions could inch toward filling up a week’s calendar. Throughout many pages I found myself saying “amen” because what Jennifer described about her daily life was not that dissimilar to what mine had always been. Everyone would say I was “so busy” and I hated hearing those words, but to anyone watching me I knew that was exactly what appeared to be the life I was living day in and day out. You may not self-identify as a controlling person, but when life starts to get out of control and our commitments exceed our ability to meet them, we all tend to start trying to bring order back into things. Sometimes it can feel like trying to stanch the blood flowing out of a wound. The blessing woven throughout each page is the openness of Jennifer to share her own journey with these same things and how the Lord began to speak into her heart and life to help her rekindle her ability to rest. She shares what she has learned and is still learning and invites the reader to join her to walk together. This book has something for nearly everyone and it also has a companion Bible study as well. Check it out and find another woman who might want to share in the journey as well.

I identify with Martha, the sister of Mary and Lazarus in the Bible. My tendency is to go to the Lord and complain “Jesus, why isn’t So-and-So helping me?”. Most of my adult life was spent trying to control situations and people in my job as a senior-level college administrator and at home with my children and husband. Then I tried to control my health conditions through diet, exercise and other lifestyle changes. But despite all the things I did, circumstances and people can’t always be controlled. Jennifer Dukes Lee’s book It’s All Under Control is just what I needed to read at a time I was feeling weary and anxiety-ridden. It is for the woman who is tired of doing everything in her life, but does not know how to stop. The book is filled with examples from Jennifer’s life and from scripture and is both inspiring and practical. Each chapter includes suggested action items called “Cracking the Control Code”. There is also a written Bible study book as well as on-line resources to further enhance your study of this book. As an experienced journalist, Lee has a very clear and engaging style of writing. If you are a Christian woman who often feels anxious or overwhelmed with the circumstances of your like, I encourage you to purchase this book. This book should not just be read once and put on the shelf. Instead it is one to study, journal about and pray with and remember that God has it all under control.

The idea of slowing down, pairing down commitments and prioritizing what I and our family spend our time on is not a new one. I’ve read more than one book and had more conversations than I can count with trusted friends on this. You can pick up a wide variety of books on this topic both in and out of the Christian section. Ironically I recently said yes to not 1, but 2 book launch teams. To most it might seem insane that I would add more to my to-do list than is already on it. I’ve thought the same about my sanity level more than once BUT I’m utterly convinced that God brought me both of these books and their respective authors and launch teams at the same time for a reason. I could have easily written the beginning of It’s All Under Control myself. Jennifer put into words what I have failed to so often before. Her words convicted me, broke me and encouraged me. Her book made me laugh, made me cry and then made me laugh again. It is hands down the best book I’ve read to date on this topic. It will speak to your soul and help understand why it’s so vital we slow down and relinquish control to the One who controls it all and also give you the tools to do so. You won’t regret this purchase!!! *As a part of the launch team for this book I received an advance copy in exchange for my honest review. I have already purchased additional copies to give away as gifts because it is just that good!

It's so refreshing when a woman has the courage to let you peek behind the highlight reel of her life and see the real person and her real struggles. That's exactly what Jennifer does in It's All Under Control. Her honest vulnerability and wonderful encouragement help us to face the things in our lives that we work tirelessly to control but in the end leave us exhausted and without peace. For me, it's about fear; I have serious trust issues. Translation: I don't believe God is big enough, strong enough or good enough to have control of my life. When I read the following words (which I've cried 1000 times and will likely cry 1000 more) I felt a heavy weight lift off of me knowing I'm not alone in my struggle. Pg. 108 ... God knows my long history with unbelief, and he's heard my cry: "I do believe! Help my unbelief." God really does know how this all turns out. Maybe we'll have to wait until heaven to know he was trustworthy in all that is yet to unfold in our lives. But until then, we have a choice. We can choose to trust God anyway. We can choose active trust. We can trust him with all that we are because we believe he is all he says he is. He hasn't done all that we wanted, but he has done all that is right. And right now, that is enough for me.

When I started this book I thought “I’d better read this so I can relate to my control freak friends out there and have empathy”, only to realize... I’m horribly trying to control every single aspect of our lives. From monitoring everything with our kids to worrying about a family member and their day, why can’t I just let it go? If you’re thinking this is strictly for those mommas who are so busy and overwhelmed they can’t slow down, you’re wrong. It’s also for the women who are so mentally swamped that they’re not slowing down to let Jesus take our moments and wrap them in trust and grace. Jen is a gifted writer, story teller and best of all- points us to go to the cross with everything and let God decide what to pick up and put down. She’s very relatable, down to earth and doesn’t write something she isn’t living out. She also makes sure she doesn’t tell us the answers she came up with- this is solid biblical guidance. For the Jesus girl, struggling Jesus girl, or even someone who has only heard of Jesus and not met Him personally- This book will guide you and lead you to the cross, meeting a more personal savior. I was given an advanced reading copy. I’ve also been able to get an early copy of the Bible study and look forward to reading and writing through that!

Every now and then a book comes up on my radar that I know is completely a GOD THING - and this was one of them. I hadn't heard of Jennifer before, but the title and the subject were absolutely something I needed to see/read at this season of my life when all my plates are spinning and I am overwhelmed with keeping them all under control. In the first few chapters she hooked me - she said we are usually doing so much because we are trying so hard to show how much we love our people, or trying so hard to show God how much we love Him...but the most important thing is really that HE LOVES US. What a realization. The truth went on from there, and the realizations continued as to WHY and HOW we let ourselves get completely OUT of control, all while believing we have it all UNDER CONTROL. This is the first book I have seen that doesn't try to get you to say 'no' to everything! Because, who can really do that??? Instead, she takes you on a journey of evaluation - really trying to get you to understand what is causing you the most stress, what can you truly let go of, and how you practically walk in faith that you are FOLLOWING Jesus, NOT dragging Him along on all your errands! This will definitely be one that I read more than once!!

If you deal with the need to be in control then this book is for you. As I read it I began to realize I try to control more aspects of my life and those around me than I thought I did. It is such a good and honest book that has opened my eyes to the truth. The author made me dig deep and really want to understand why I do what I do and why I need to change. I highly recommend this book because it is full of wisdom and gives the hope of learning to rest. I was given an advanced copy. This is my honest opinion.

Jennifer Dukes Lee has written an encouraging book for those who struggle with and are exhausted by trying to be in complete control of every area of life. Her personal examples add to the enjoyment of reading this book. All through the book, the author points us to trusting God as being sovereign in our lives and that trusting in Him to control our lives can bring strength and peace. Thoughtful reading for those who need extra encouragement in this area. I received a copy of this book from the publisher. All opinions are my own.

This book made me laugh out loud in places while the truth that was hard for me, yet I've so desperately craved to hear, seeped into my soul: I don't have to "shield my beloved people from pain" by handling everything. God's got this--all of it. Isn't that glorious? With her hilarious lists in the margins and her thought-provoking heart-work at the end of each chapter, Jennifer invited me to take an honest look at the way I try to control everyone and everything instead of trusting Jesus like I say I do. Here's the thing: I didn't know how busy I was trying to do everything right, jump through all the hoops, keep track of all the things---and dragging my stressed-out teenager with me---until I read Jennifer's book. On each page, there's a sentence, a paragraph, several paragraphs that speak right to where I'm living. Only God can do that. If you're looking for a book that tells you how to get everyone and everything organized and under control, this isn't that book. If you're looking for a writer who slogs through the trenches right beside you as you both run hard after Jesus in this crazy world, then buy this book. Read this book. Write in it, inhale it, journal about it, then read it again.

This is NOT another book bashing or discouraging those of us that take charge, complete the project, and get 'er done. Jennifer Lee Dukes is a fellow-control freak. She gets us. Really gets us. She admits that she too would rather do it herself than risk asking someone else to complete the task (goodness knows they won’t do it as well as we can). Like me, she struggles with when to hold on and when to let go. But the good news is, she teaches us how to decide what’s God’s best and whether that means holding on or letting go. I’m well aware of my control issues and have even made some progress in a couple of areas in the past, but this book was like a fast-pass at Disney World. Instead of being stuck slowly, slowly weaving my way through the handrails, I was suddenly given tools that would catapult me forward – allowing me to more quickly and easily determine God’s best in a situation. These are tools I know I’ll use and you will too! This book is an invitation to “Stop playing God, and start becoming a partner with him in the life he’s set before us.” To “let go of what God has not asked used to do, so we can shine as what he has.”

I have struggled with busy-ness, people-pleasing, and control issues for most of my life. In recent years, I've picked up every book I could find about these issues. Some were great examples of the author's own healing, but not enough relatability for me to see how it could translate to my own journey. Some were missing the faith element that is critical to me. Jennifer's book, from the introduction to the very end, felt like a conversation with a dear friend who GETS ME. Not only that, but a friend who is a little further along in the journey, who could whisper encouragement in my ear and make me laugh in solidarity instead of taking myself so darn seriously. ;) Chapters 6 (Let Go- Finding the Strength to Open Your Hands) and Chapters 13 (Rest- The Real Reason You Feel Busy but Not Productive) were the game changers for me. I'm already excited about the changes I feel in my heart and my approach to my schedule/mindset through this book. I'm going to read this one again, and will definitely recommend it to a few friends/family members who I know also struggle with this. Thank you, Jennifer, for writing to my heart!

Jennifer Dukes Lee has written a book that soundly speaks to the woman desperately trying to control all the things. The woman who says yes too often because she either wants it done right or wants to keep everyone happy. The woman who has the perfect plan and just needs God to bless it. The woman whose pride keeps her as the helper and never the one asking for help. Let’s face it: most of us can raise our hand and admit we like control. We like the way it feels and the way it makes us look. But we were made for surrender. It’s All Under Control is Jennifer’s yes to God’s persistent invitation to surrender -- learning to delegate, trust God, rest and accept help. Jennifer’s style is engaging, funny, and hugely practical. You’ll find out which type of control you tend toward – the Driver, Devoter or Darling – and when that can help or hurt. You’ll see yourself on the pages of this book but even better, you’ll see how to release your two-fisted clench over control and rest in God’s care.