Emotional survival for law enforcement: A guide for officers and their families

Anyone in law enforcement should sit down and read this book. It is very insightful and educational on what to look for before it is to late. As time has changed and the publics view on law enforcement is much different concepts and behavioral patterns still remain the same. Experience does not matter whether just getting into law enforcement or having been in for years it is a book everyone should read. This makes a great gift or even something an agency makes law enforcement read. The best thing about this book is that it works for multiple jobs whether a dispatcher, a corrections officer, a cop, or fire personnel as long as you take the time to read it, it can be really insightful. This is even a book that can be reread if you find yourself slipping into the problems it describes. If there are any therapists out there that are really big into first responder mental health please take a moment and read this. I very much believe it will help you and give you some insight on the troubles the profession faces and how better understand people in the line of work.

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This is a must have for any L.E officers and their families.

Every family of pice officer, or even fireman should read this book, the read it again.

This is a fabulous book to understand the in and outs of the emotional toll of being in law enforcement. All LEO families and LEOs should read it.

Every LEO and their family members should read this book. So helpful to know the "signs" before it's too late to help.

It highlights many issues that myself, peers, friends, and family have experienced in their lifetime. It helps create awareness.

I became a police officer in January of 2002, the same year that Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement was first published. I've often commented on how much police work has changed, just in the thirteen years since I first pinned on the badge. Now I'm a husband, father and patrol Sergeant, facing the daily challenge of balancing my personal needs with those of my family, command staff and troops. I only recently discovered Dr. Gilmartin's book after it was recommended at the 99th FBI-LEEDA Supervisor Leadership Institute, but now I wish someone had handed it to me ten years ago. Yes, things have changed since I became a cop, but the behavioral patterns, concepts and ideas discussed in Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement remain the same. Having personally experienced almost every one of the "symptoms" listed in the book, I felt as if I were staring into a mirror with the turn of every page. At the same time, however, by the time I closed the cover, it felt like a great weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. Not only was I NOT ALONE in my experiences, but I was now armed with the knowledge to reverse their negative effects. It doesn't matter how much experience the reader has, this book is just as appropriate as an academy graduation gift or part of the promotional process. Just as effective as preventative medicine for idealistic rookies, as it is a "shot in the arm" for cynical veterans. There is no "right time" to become an emotional survivor, so start reading!

Best investment into a book this far! My boyfriend is a LEO and it has helped both of us to understand so much about what is happening emotionally and physically. I have also lent it to a friend who is a LMHC and she has been sharing about the hyper vigilance rollercoaster with some of her clients as well!

Anyone in law enforcement should sit down and read this book. It is very insightful and educational on what to look for before it is to late. As time has changed and the publics view on law enforcement is much different concepts and behavioral patterns still remain the same. Experience does not matter whether just getting into law enforcement or having been in for years it is a book everyone should read. This makes a great gift or even something an agency makes law enforcement read. The best thing about this book is that it works for multiple jobs whether a dispatcher, a corrections officer, a cop, or fire personnel as long as you take the time to read it, it can be really insightful. This is even a book that can be reread if you find yourself slipping into the problems it describes. If there are any therapists out there that are really big into first responder mental health please take a moment and read this. I very much believe it will help you and give you some insight on the troubles the profession faces and how better understand people in the line of work.

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Timely Delivery and Product in Good Shape

This is a must have for any L.E officers and their families.

Every family of pice officer, or even fireman should read this book, the read it again.

This is a fabulous book to understand the in and outs of the emotional toll of being in law enforcement. All LEO families and LEOs should read it.

Every LEO and their family members should read this book. So helpful to know the "signs" before it's too late to help.

It highlights many issues that myself, peers, friends, and family have experienced in their lifetime. It helps create awareness.

I became a police officer in January of 2002, the same year that Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement was first published. I've often commented on how much police work has changed, just in the thirteen years since I first pinned on the badge. Now I'm a husband, father and patrol Sergeant, facing the daily challenge of balancing my personal needs with those of my family, command staff and troops. I only recently discovered Dr. Gilmartin's book after it was recommended at the 99th FBI-LEEDA Supervisor Leadership Institute, but now I wish someone had handed it to me ten years ago. Yes, things have changed since I became a cop, but the behavioral patterns, concepts and ideas discussed in Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement remain the same. Having personally experienced almost every one of the "symptoms" listed in the book, I felt as if I were staring into a mirror with the turn of every page. At the same time, however, by the time I closed the cover, it felt like a great weight had been lifted off of my shoulders. Not only was I NOT ALONE in my experiences, but I was now armed with the knowledge to reverse their negative effects. It doesn't matter how much experience the reader has, this book is just as appropriate as an academy graduation gift or part of the promotional process. Just as effective as preventative medicine for idealistic rookies, as it is a "shot in the arm" for cynical veterans. There is no "right time" to become an emotional survivor, so start reading!

Best investment into a book this far! My boyfriend is a LEO and it has helped both of us to understand so much about what is happening emotionally and physically. I have also lent it to a friend who is a LMHC and she has been sharing about the hyper vigilance rollercoaster with some of her clients as well!

Not everything in this book applied to me but quite a bit of it did. The things that did not speak to me however I have seen affect other people. This book opens your eyes to the psychological effects of the daily grind that is being the Police. It uncovers things that a lot of people don’t think about and can help many identify those hard to explain stress factors that plague LEOs and are left a mystery to their loved ones. One of the best illustrations is how Gilmartin explains the roller coaster of stress and downtown and how many LEOs cope. He also suggests ways to help counter the negative effects of that roller coaster. What helped me the most was the second half of the book that covered the stress placed on LEOs by their organization, supervisors and others that create policy or have a hold over a department. Many LEOs will tell you there is more stress coming from the chain of command than there is dealing with bad guys on the street. Gilmartin uses plain language that cuts to the heart of the matter and offers insight on how to manage the internal stress coming from the department itself. If you are an Officer, Deputy, Agent, Detective or any other position as an LEO this book can help you understand why so many of us are the way we are. This book may safe your marriage or other valued relationships. It may save your life.

Kevin has complied a book that will help every new officer prepare for, and every experienced offer recognize and address, the cycles and influences the job of policing outs every LE officer through across the course of their career. Insightful and easy to read, this book provides insights that can help avoid burnout, family issues, and maybe even suicide. There is no harder profession in existence, and it is getting harder every day. These insights are needed more now than ever. I gave this to my son when he joined the profession, and as a Chief of Police (now retired) I gave away many copies to officers in my department. If you’re a cop, or you have one in your family, this might be the best $20 you’ll spend this year.

This book was awesome! I learned a lot about myself, some good and some bad…. but hey at least I know. This book is great for LEO’s and their families, as dives deep into the issues we all go through on the job and then bring home. Even if you think you dont bring it home, you do and your family notices. Take the time to read this short book (maybe 150 pages?). Its well worth your time! I wish I would have been forced to read this 12 years ago when I started this career. It would have helped a lot!

This book was extremely eye opening and explained a lot about the way I live my life off duty. Thank you to the author for writing it. Every police trainee should read it.

An excellent book for all first responders. Law Enforcement officers (LEOs) have to stoke down their emotions and feelings in order to do the job, but there must be an outlet for the stress and trauma of the job. I train local, state, and federal LEOs, first responders, corrections officers and others in this field in a seminar, In Harm's Way: Psychological Survival in Law Enforcement (IHW), in order to help them make it through their career and after. As a cop who lost my husband, an FBI SA, to suicide, I'm hoping to save lives. This book by Kevin Gilmartin has been a blessing to me and is one I highly recommend that all IHW attendees read. Our mantra is: "It takes courage to ask for help. Be courageous."

I was one of the lucky ones who found this book early in my career. Since the time I got promoted, I have gifted a copy to every single new hire. Knowledge is power and when you start this profession in the know, you are able to navigate the threats with awareness. The book captures the power of the compromise of psychological resiliency that can come if police do not actively protect themselves. A must read for all police and family!

I am not a big reader. I mean I don’t usually sit down and take much time to read. I am usually too busy with work and my family life. However, when I purchased this book, I made a commitment to myself to read it. I’m glad I did! This is a wonderful book for law enforcement, their families, and even their friends to read. As long as you try to read it with some optimism and be open to ideas posed within, you’ll truly be glad you read the book. I recommend you to purchase this book.

I would give this book 50 stars if I could. If you are a cop or love a cop, this book is mandatory and should be required reading for every officer and their family members. This book has changed my life and my relationship, and I have recommended it to every officer/LE family member I know. Even if you or the LEO you care for "is just fine" and you think the book isn't needed, it is. This book will prevent future problems, solve current problems and provide answers for things you always thought were inevitable "parts of the job" - in a way that is engaging, often humorous and easy to understand. Take two hours and read the book, it's reasonably short and to the point. It could save your life one day; sometimes the most dangerous part of LE is toll it takes on the officer, not the streets.

My husband has been an LEO for a little over 2 years and has experienced serious personality changes in that time that have completely disrupted our marriage and family. I wish we had read this book sooner. Dr Gilmartin does not give direction or tell the reader what he or she should do to fix whatever problems they have caused, but gives a biologic and amazingly easy to understand reason for why he or she may have acted the way they did. That is a breath of fresh air compared to other "self-help" books that tell you to follow certain steps to solve your problems. I am hopeful that, after reading the book and understanding what caused the changes in his personality, we can focus on saving our marriage. The book is easy to read, not at all "preachy," and is only the second book my husband has ever read in our 17 year relationship. He loved it too and is hoping to share it with his parents and our non-LEO friends so they understand what is going on with him. It is worth every penny and should be provided to every single candidate entering police and fire academies.

I've been an LEO for over 15 years, and I will say this book can shift your entire perspective on work, family, and life. It absolutely saved my marriage, pulled me out of a rut, and reshaped the way I thought about the most important aspects of my life. This book was equally valuable for my wife. It gave her insight into why I do certain things, or certain personality traits I exhibited. If you are in the LE field, or you have a loved one that is, please read this book.

So far this book has been really amazing. I am about to enter into the law enforcement field and I really feel prepared for what lies ahead and how I can ensure mentally I am prepared for the challenges I am going to face and how to ensure I do not damage or lose my family pursuing this type of career. I would really suggest anyone thinking about buying it to just hit the buy now button and ask questions later and any leaders reading this I would highly recommend you yell from the mountain tops for your subordinates or even your superiors to read this. I know personally I am going to purchase a couple of extra copies each year and give them out to my colleagues or subordinates.

At one time, this book was used as the primary text at the Washington State Criminal Justice Training Commission for all law enforcement officers seeking commission in this state. It is a great book for anyone who wants to understand a law enforcement officer they may know. The book gives clear accounts of the pressures that they face day to day, and unfortunately, the devastating process they go through early in their careers, and that impact on their emotional, personal and professional lives. Few people understand the good and the bad things that policer officers do. I have taught in a criminal justice program, and any student who told me s/he wanted to become a cop, I have encouraged them to read this book. Unfortunately, I'm not very confident that reading the book can mitigate the damaging effects that the experiences have impacting law enforcement personnels' lives.

I have 20+ years in Law Enforcement. I have been a Confinement Officer, a Patrol Officer, a Detective, and a Captain. When I read this book, I was blown away. Amazed. It was like I had written it. This book should be required reading to all academy classes and new supervisors, and couples where a spouse/sweetheart is a First Responder. To borrow a song lyric from Queen, "It's so easy, when you know the rules." I noticed that it was referenced on an episode of SouthLAnd. This is really that good, and is basically a weekend read. If you are a "new boot," or in your first 5-10 years as a PD/EMT/FD, government job, or really any job, this is a must read. You will enjoy it as well. Be safe, love your spouse and feed your marriage, and do whatever it takes to come home at the end of the shift.

Another Must Read! If this book is not already on the mandatory reading list for every officer in training, it should be! My husband and I heard about it in a chaplaincy school we attended and ordered it. I'm so glad I did because it really helps us to understand the unique challenges police officers and other first responders face. My nephew in Germany just started police school and I will give him this book. I believe this can save officers lives, careers and marriages. Knowing and understanding the dynamics that are clearly described in this book can be like a bullet proof vest for the emotional part of their being. The wisdom shared in this book is a mighty tool for every law enforcement officer.

A street talking narrative about life as an officer and how to avoid the ever present treats to their emotional and mental health. A must read for anyone wanting to get into the field or relatively new officers. I believe it would be of benefit to older officers who have become casualties of the profession. Originally this was a gift to a friend entering the recruit academy in Indianapolis. Surprisingly the department gave all of the new recruits this book and made it mandatory reading with homework assignments.

If you've been a police officer for more than a few years, you will find yourself somewhere in this book--guaranteed. This book helped me change my entire outlook on the final half of my career. Many people out there don't realize the stresses officers face from inside their own agency, and that is where there is the most job dissatisfaction. This is not a book about how to feel better about yourself, how to get along with your spouse, or any other kind of "self-help counseling." This book is going to hit you with cold, hard realities and give you a good dose of medicine that is hard to swallow. Gilmartin knows exactly what officers say and how they feel about the "brass," and how this job can suck you into being nothing more in life than just a "cop." You don't need to get this book just because it's on the sergeant's exam, you should get it because of the job you're in, and then give it to your spouse.

I have used this video in law enforcement mental health classes for about 10 years. My cd cracked and I had to replace it. Every police officer that watches it says, “I wish my spouse would watch this.”

A friend of mine suggested this book. If you're in law enforcement you owe it to yourself to read this. I found myself crying and laughing at some of the content. Pick it up, it really does open your eyes to our career and how it impacts our lives.

This book was recommended to me years ago when I first became an officer. It was a lifesaver!! I have since left law enforcement and now work with domestic violence victims. I reordered this since I had lost my original copy during several moves. Always good to have it on hand to reread.

This book gave me so much insight into my LEO life. It helped me understand his world and mindset the job. Great book for families , especially wives , of officers.

This book tops the charts for Law Enforcement must reads in my opinion. I've read several, and while there are several good ones, this one by far is my favorite. Kevin Gilmartin breaks it down exactly how it is, how you can cope as a cop, wife, child, friend, brother and how you as a (in my case a spouse) can support them. He gives you several resources, and also lets you know you're not alone. When I first read the book several years ago it was SUCH a sense of relief that the things my husband was doing, how he was acting, was NORMAL for Law Enforcement, and how me as a wife was able to realize it was the job, not me. Honestly this book saved our marriage. I won't ever get rid of it because I thumb through it from time to time and just get a refresher on things. If you're married to an officer, or have an officer close to you, no question...get and READ this book.

I wish I read this sooner. The book does a great job explaining why you’ll end up in a rut and on the rollercoaster it identifies. The book offers very little on how to fix that, but it will open your mind to the process. Regardless, this is a MUST read for any cop.

As both a spouse and a mother to law enforcement officers as well as a career military son I can totally relate to the issues covered in this book. This book is a MUST READ for not only the officer or military person but for their spouses and other family members as well. It will help the spouse understand what's going on and it will help the officer/military person understand themselves and their own behavior. Once the issues are made clear change in behavior can follow.

The book is good. My husband recently retired 2 months ago after being a police officer for 35 years. I can speak as a wife of a retired police officer and from experiencing being married to an officer for 30 years. I believe the book would especially be helpful to young officers beginning their careers....common sense advice. We purchased the book for our nephew who recently joined the police force to provide some helpful insight for him. Any assistance in a tough job is a plus. Looking back....My husband and I did not fall into the pitfalls the books tells you to avoid....with God's grace. Definitely an insightful book and worth the purchase.

Wish I’d known this info years ago. Learning this earlier might have saved my marriage.

If you are a new cop or are contemplating a career in law enforcement, you should do yourself a favor and read this book. I read this book 11 years too late. Had I read it earlier on in my career, I may have saved myself a lot of heartache/headaches. Dr. Gimartin's assessment of the damage the police career can do to an individual is stunningly accurate. This book gives new meaning to "hitting the nail on the head". Although I'm still proudly and gainfully employed with the police department that hired me, I can now put my past actions and future behaviors in context and look for warning signs in my younger co-workers. If you are reading this review and are in a supervisory capacity you are a FOOL if you don't make it required reading for your subordinates. 'Nuff said.

A must read for both officers old and new and for family members. The author, a former law enforcement officer himself, spells out the pitfalls and dangers of this career. The book provides great advice on how to become a better officer without compromising the family dynamic at home. It's a juggling act at times and the book helps sort through some of the issues confronting todays modern law enforcement officer.

I have heard good things about this book being a very informative read on Hypervigilance and how to cope with it. That it should be mandatory for all Police Officers and Deputies to read. Well, I feel that is very true. But I feel it would be a perfect look into Police Work and the stresses therein to future Officers and those considering Police work. This job is not cut out for everyone, and it will take it's toll if you allow it. As a Police officer for 4 years and a Paramedic for 16, you must learn to deal with the stresses and leave work at work, so your family does not suffer. This book will tell you about the warning signs, and if you fall victim to the constant state of Hypervigilance, how to try to get yourself out of the rut. It's only 130 pages and can be finished in a day. Buy it, it will help you out or could help you help a fellow officer out. PB CCSO Patrol

This book is by far the best book on surviving a career in law enforcement. Dr. Gilmartin wrote this book in a way that as you read it you'll swear that he must work with you because he knows all about you and the others in your department! After reading his book we arranged for him to come out for a one-day seminar. The seminar had such an impact on our brass and HR representatives that the next thing I knew I was ordering a copy of the book for every officer on our department! Dr. Kevin Gilmartin was a cop for 20 years in Arizona before embarking on his career as a police psychologist. He genuinely wants to help as many officers as he can by showing us how we can save ourselves from falling into the traps that we're all exposed to in this career. If you're in law enforcement you need to read this book.

This book goes beyond the law enforcement hurdles an out of balance life. Must read for all first responders and their family members!

I bought this as required reading for a promotional examination. My wife wanted to read it after I finished. Its a nice read.

As a deputy sheriff I have studied Dr. Kevin Gilmartin’s insightful book, Emotional Survival for Law Enforcement. The picture he paints is accurate and the advice he gives is life-saving. Gilmartin gives new meaning to the term ‘burnout.” He explains that an officer’s hypervigilance on-duty is a necessary survival skill, but ignoring off-duty behavior can destroy one’s family, career, and life. When dedicated, exemplary officers become angry, bitter victims, blaming the agency’s administrative decisions, then it’s all but too late. Read this excellent book to help avoid destructive, downward spiraling outcomes. Be a happy survivor, not an angry victim. Jim Potter Author of Cop in the Classroom

Excellent book. I read it 4 years ago as part of a promotional process. At the time I was 26 years into my career. The cautions presented and ways an officer will evolve were absolutely true to my life. I wish I'd read this book in 1986. Many errors could have been avoided with this knowledge going in. I bought 3 copies and am loaning them out to my newer officers first to read. Invaluable information for not just the officers but families of officers as well.

Recommended to me by a LEO friend. I think that this should be required reading for anyone considering a career in law enforcement, anyone in a law enforcement academy or anyone actually in law enforcement! Great read (about 2 hours) and highly recommended. It will lay out what the average cop is going to experience from their earliest days through their career and details methods to keep their sanity in check. I wish I had read this book twenty years ago. But, better late than never.

I just finished this book the other day and I personally feel it has applications to professions beyond Law Enforcement. Anyone in the medical field or any other profession that has very unique challenges compared to a typical M-F 9-5 job could absolutely benefit from this book. I am looking to recommend it to all of my colleagues for their benefit and welfare. I bought a second copy to keep myself while I pawn the other copy out to people to read. It's an easy read and there's hardly any fluff. It's all very useful. I see myself reading it again a few times before my career is over to refresh this book's message when things may get a little choppy as they inevitably will. Highly recommended

I read this book as part of my Master's Degree education. I have to say this is one of the easiest, most informative reads I have ever completed. The book is an excellent source for understanding the highs and lows that patrol officer's experience during their regular life. Going from an adrenaline high during a hot call to a relatively boring home life of sitting in front of the television will cause emotional changes in an officer. That officer is unable to comprehend how these changes are effecting them, their emotional health will suffer and most likely they will take their negative attitude out on their family. This book will help officers understand this change and be able to identify when they are feeling the negative impacts of this change.

Life changing read for sure! I had worked Corrections for a couple years before becoming a deputy and suffered from much of what was mentioned in this. While I was in the academy, I read this book and was able to make the changes I needed to, including getting out of a toxic relationship. This is a must read for anyone who is going to enter law enforcement or is already. Learn the symptoms and prevent them!

A must read for all leo and leo families. We suggest it to all new hires and their wives.

I could write a whole bunch of stuff about this book, but just take it from me straight. If you are a cop, or in any type of relationship (partner, parent, etc.) with someone who is... you NEED TO READ THIS BOOK. This book should be issued with every badge, but unfortunately only a few departments do that. They train officers to survive on the street, but they don't ever teach them how to survive at home with this type of job. Every cop will face what this book talks about, no question, the difference is how they approach it. If they have the skills to recognize what's happening they can balance Police work with normal life. If they don't... they'll become a statistic, bitter divorced cops who sacrifice their families for the job and then ultimately hating the job in the end too.

I retired ten years ago after a thirty-year career in law enforcement and found this book quite interesting, stressing the psychological impact that going from the high of hyper-vigilance while on duty, to the low of the detached mind while off duty. The book seems to center on the first few years of patrol duties of a police officer, and likely it should, for those are the "formative" years. One aspect of police work this book falls a little short on is the extreme negative impact continuous exposure to horrific crime scenes can have on an officer's human spirit. Which in many instances results in post-traumatic stress. Having said that, I feel this is a good book and well worth the read for anyone wanting to learn what really goes on behind the scenes of police work.

This book is great for anyone who wants to get into the field of law enforcement, or any family members of law enforcement. I am artily pursing a career in policing and this book has left me more prepared for the field. This book talks a lot about the emotional troubles that come along with the field and what you can do to combat them. This book would be good for a cop to read because it would help them combat the common problems, likewise I think it would be good for families to read because it will help them understand their law enforcement family member.

It’s a pretty good book

A must for police marriages, new and old! We can always teach an old dog new tricks 😉 right? I hope anyhow. Just a ton of useful information compiled for us to review together. I wish I would have read it years ago!

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I had to read this for a promotion exam and went into it untrusting and rolling my eyes. I was so wrong. This book has actually made a difference in my life and every cop should read it. If you don’t read any other book in your law enforcement career, at least read this one.

This is a well written book that would benefit any law enforcement officer, family members, and Citizens Academy participants. It gives great understanding about what people in this line of work encounter daily and reasons for their reactions an emotional responses or suppressions because of their work.

Dr. Kevin Gilmartin is the most articulate and well grounded expert on how to keep yourself and your family whole and healthy. He's a retired police officer, clinical psychologist, and highly sought after speaker and trainer--and also an old Marine--so he knows how corrosive law enforcement work can be. Everyone who is a cop, loves one, or wants to become one will benefit from this book. My only regret is that this book wasn't around when I started my law enforcement career. Bryan Vila, Ph.D. Professor of Criminal Justice and Criminology Washington State University Co-author of Micronesian Blues

This book is an amazing read. I had been having issues in my personal life and excelling in my law enforcement life, this book helps you understand why then how to try to fix your personal life.

This book had me crying in the first dang chapter! My dad and stepdad are both retired officers. I'm now dating a corrections Captain. It explained so many things that I never even questioned. But, as I read about typical behavioral patterns and WHY, many things clicked for me. I wish I'd read this years ago. I really feel like this book is essential for any officer and his/her family members (significant others especially...but I'm a bit biased!). It's a hard, often thankless job, and I feel much better equipped to help emotionally support my correctional officer :)

Definitely a good read if you are a LEO, recommend you read it earlier in your career rather than later. Also very important for your family to read it as well especially if you are new to law enforcement, it helps them understand some of the changes they should expect to see from you at home. This way you avoid arguments when they understand what you are going through and they can help you plan for the effects the job will have on you.

Very understandable good guides how to understand your partner more and yourself. So if you have family friends or even yourself get this book I recommend it.

This book is fantastic. As a first responder I think it is incredibly valuably. Bought a second copy for the family to read so we can survive and thrive throughout our 20+ years in this. It’s worth every penny.

Required reading for LE spouses and LE.

Must read for Leo wives. Very insightful.

Brings to light a lot of things that were unanswered questions in the past. Funny thing is I experienced (to a lesser degree) some of these issues as a bartender! The hypervigilence rollercoaster for one... Go figure. But working in the LE field, and if you love a cop, trust me, you need to read and understand this book. It takes work and a LOT of understanding on both ends. Excellent book, a few laughs, and a lot of good insight. You'll 'get' a lot of things that were a mystery to you before... And just maybe you'll be able to work things out...

If you are a cop, get this book and apply its principles it will help keep you sane in a world of insanity. If you're the spouse of a cop, get this book and apply its principles it could save the marriage! If you have a friend who is a cop, and you cannot understand why a cop thinks, talk, walks and breaths like they do - get this book. I have been a cop in excess of 20 years, this wisdom came very late in my profession - it should be MANDATORY for everyone who is a cop, want's to be a cop, calls a cop a friend. I teach this, I condone this, I preach this. Thank you Dr. Gilmartin

A small, powerful text to remind the entire law enforcement community, from the Director or Chief to the newest cadet, of the balance needed to pursue and complete a law enforcement career with a sane vision and balanced living of life with family, friends, and loved ones. It is often presumed that law enforcement officers are "above all that," and simply "suck it up" while going on to the next assignment. Nothing could be further from the truth. Dr. Gilmartin in a scholarly but simple manner engages us in the reality of an officer's emotional life, which in time always will effect his physical, psychological, and spiritual lives as well. His comments are highly operable in other caregiver professions as well.

A must read for any LEO and their families. I thought I was handling my career just fine but this book opened my eyes to the things that I’m not even aware I’m doing when I get home. You can relate to this book which kept my attention from page 1. Get this book for a loved one in law Enforcement, it could save their career and their life

Amazing book for those in law enforcement, and for those who love a law enforcement officer (LEO). I understand what my husband goes through now, and it has made our relationship that much better. I am so thankful that I found this book, and hope others find it as helpful as we did. This book is also the basis for a continuing education class for LEOs, which my husband attended with his crew. I highly recommend that as well-- it helps the officer understand how the job affects him/her (and vice versa).

I hate self help books, but this one hit home and was written by someone who can truly relate. As I read it, I saw myself in certain aspects that are addressed. This is a book that I've been recommending to police officers who are feeling burnt out, dissatisfied at work or at home, bitter and negative, or have stopped enjoying the job, or worse, their families. I'm winding down my career, but I wish I had this book 24 years ago.

Seriously, a must-read for anyone with a close friend, spouse, or family member that works in law enforcement. It really breaks down the emotional aspect of what working in law enforcement does to a person. Super and recommend for law enforcement also. This book should be given at orientation for new recruits! It's a book that my spouse and I will read over and over, especially when we're going through a rough patch. Signed, The wife of a law enforcement officer

Must read for all law enforcement and families

I recommend this book for officers all the time. It helps them and their family deal with hyper vigilance as well as other things that law enforcement officers face.

Great book for LEO. Provides insight for officers and their family/friends. The details are acurate on so many levels and the advice will keep families in tact for the long haul. As an LEO for a decade now I know putting family and work in perspective simultaneously requires a balancing act like none other. This great read is designed for the go-getter. Buy it, read it, practice it.

I'm not much of a reader, but a buddy of mine pretty much insisted i read this book so I figured I'd check it out. I have to say I'm really glad that I did. It's full of great information for officers and their families alike. The way its written makes it easy to read, I've already finished it actually. HIGHLY recommended, buy this book and share it with your coworkers.

Excellent condition and as explained.

Amazing book. Must read for law enforcement and their families to understand and combat the natural negative progression of law enforcement officers in their personal life.

Great book and better understanding what goes through our Leo's minds..

I Recommend it.

Good book--very helpful and insightful for family, friends as well as those in law enforcement. Wish departments were more aware of the emotional havoc that law enforcement often wreaks on officers and their families and were more proactive about keeping their officers emotionally healthy.

You might think it crazy but every police officer or law enforcement officer that has been around for awhile will totally understand why this book has been written. It is a hard job to do and you need all of the 'tools' available to help you survive it. Do yourself a favour and read this book and make some changes in your life so that you get to live a long and happy life after policing.......hopefully with all your friends and family still around you........well written.......this book was bought by one of our Assistant Commissioners in bulk and handed out as a gift to officers to help build resilience

Won’t fix your troubles. But it’s a good book for the person that doesn’t see his “issues” yet. It’s a mild intro into getting someone on the path.

Decent book, heard a lot of great things so my expectations far exceeded the actual book! I would recommend to any active officer but it’s not a life changing book by any means

It was like Dr Gilmartin was in my house taking notes about what my BiB did on a daily basis! He couldn't have got it that right, with that many law enforcement people, it's incredible how accurate he is. He gives very clear and easy strategies as well about how to move beyond the 'I use to' and TJF constant when they have been in for a while.. And the shine has worn off

Been a cop for 11 years...wish I had read this as a rookie. VERY good read and so dead on. Have shared it with several co-workers who relate to it as well.

This book describes law enforcement life very well. As the wife of a LEO it has helped me understand my husband more. Now I am just hoping my husband can utilize some information from this book to be healthier and happier.

I was unsure how quickly I would get this book I was under the impression that it was out of print. However, it came within a week! Great job Great Georgia Games! Thank you for supporting law enforcement!

Bought it for myself to better manage the verbal abuse I endured from my distant and grumpy, and overall negative-minded ex. I lost stamina to understand, gave it to him instead. He said he liked it and seemed to recognize himself in the book. Nevertheless look, I'm single again.

A good read for any friends or family who is in law enforcement.

This is very helpful book for friends and family of police officers. He explains the emotional and adrenaline roller coaster officers experience on the job.

While I was hesitant to read this book when it was first recommended to my officer husband and myself, I'm so glad I finally did, only wish I'd read it sooner. This book should be required reading for anyone going through a law enforcement academy and their spouses, close family and friends. It explains some of the inevitable changes that the officer will face, along with solutions on how to combat those changes. And it's all done in a way that it's easy to understand and keeps you reading. I would highly recommend this book to anyone in law enforcement, married to an officer, has a son or daughter on the job.

Since I work in the mental health field and have encountered law enforcement officers in various capacities, I found this book to be very insightful in providing a look into the life and work of persons in law enforcement. A must read for anyone who works in law enforcement, or is planning to make that a career choice. It is also important for family and friends of those who are in law enforcement and for mental health professionals. Clinical professionals in mental health may end up counseling members of law enforcement, but more often work along side them as they deal with individuals in distress and in need.

I have not been a police officer for long but this book describes very accurately how I feel and view the job currently. I worked for 5 years in corrections and from my experience and what I saw there Dr. Gilmartin's thoughts and observations applied perfectly. All cops should read this but it isn't a book just for police, I think nearly everyone can benefit from it. The book is a quick read(142 pages) and written in a way that everyone can easily understand.

Great book for those wanting to better understand the ups and downs of a high paced job. I see lots of applications for this as the stress of many jobs reaches levels that can put you in the same cycle described in the book

If you’re a cop this book is about you and you will think it was written specifically about you. Must read for cops.

A must-read for all police, fire, and EMS personnel. I wish I had read this book years ago. Dr. Gilmartin seamlessly articulates the troubles that public safety officers face on a daily basis. It is almost as though he is speaking directly to you. His description of the emotional roller coaster is spot-on. It allows you to really evaluate the rigors of "the job." I couldn't help but realize that there is an explanation to the craziness to the stress that comes with this job.

I bought this book cause it is required reading for the Police Academy. Currently on Chapter six and realize how important this book is in this line of work. In the next ten years, i know this is one of the books I will pick up again and refer back to time and time again. I only wish I found it sooner, this book would have been useful for me during my ten years on active duty. If you're serving in the military get yourself a copy to read. I promise you will be able to relate to the first few chapters. A+

This book is an excellent book for new officers or police families to understand what comes with the job and what to expect. Everyone who reads this book feels like it discribes their life and has been very helpful to family members who may not understand what comes with the job. It's even a great read for experienced officers and may help you emotionally.

I heard of this book in Col. Grossman's "On Combat" which I was reading so I could support my military/law enforcement husband before he deploys. This book also helped me to understand what these guys go through, and I was comforted that there was a solution to all the stress and that we could be proactive about it. My husband has thought about taking it to work and leaving it out for the other guys to pick up. I was surprised that this book is out of print and that it had to be ordered outside Amazon. This is an invaluable book, I highly recommend it for families to read together.

This book is spot on!!! Departments should make this mandatory reading for any officer with 5 years of experience or more. It's an easy read and will open your eyes to your own behavior. Every police officer and their family should read this book. I have read the book twice and have been to Dr. Gilmartin's seminars and I benefit from it each and every time.

I’m military, not law enforcement, but man...I see my career very differently now. Turns out what I’m going through now after 19 years of war is not only normal but predictable. All military leaders should read this!

Have already read this book and bought another to pass on to someone else. Although it is Written about the USA Police it relates to Australian Police as well. I would recommend anyone that has family members in the Police Force in Australia to get a copy. I have read other publications that are good but this one hits the mark, it's easy to read and comprehend and goes a long way in explaining to serving officers, those no longer serving, and their families, what's happening emotionally to them. It should be mandatory reading for police academy students and recommended to all officers families.

This book couldn't be more acurate & its a must read for all law enforcement officer's and there families. God bless

This book is so spot on for anyone in LE. I’ve read others that have a “general idea” that you can find some relation to, but this one hit so close to home.

An absolute must-read for any first responder or family of a first responder. The author discusses the rollercoaster of stress from the job and highlights the need to modulate the extremes experienced during the course of a career.

My boyfriend and I were having issues and I just simply couldn't relate to things he was experiencing as a result of being a police officer. This book helped me better understand the related emotions and actions he was having and helped me understand they are a normal part of this job and I feel as though I could better handle the issues once I'd read this book.

Very good read. Helped explain a lot of how things are. We also bought a couple more copies of this book to pass on to close family and friends. If you get the chance go see him in person!

Must read for any law enforcement family and officer. A great inside into the emotional rollercoaster of an officers life and how to cope and understand the challenges that lie ahead. Crucial for all officers, but especially rookies who may not psychologically comprehend what they are about to enter.

If you are a Law Enforcement Officer and want to know what is going on with you and why it is happening. Then read this book. Because of all the glamour we see as officers it molds us into something that we and our families sometimes just do not recognize after a while. The good news is we can change it and fix it. I went to Gilmartin's training class years ago but, needed a refresher towards the end of my carreer as a cop. This book is a must for Spouses, Girlfriends and Families of officers.

This purchase was a suggestion of an instructor and mentor, and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend it to any law enforcement professional, hopeful, family member, or loved one. Dr. Gilmartin knows exactly what he's talking about, and while the book can be depressing in its point-blank honesty and accuracy, the text drives home these difficult lessons only to convince you of the veracity of its claims. It's true purpose is in providing the tactics, techniques, and procedures officers and their families need to combat the stresses faced daily by a law enforcer.

I found the book to be very informative. Im glad this book was written from a law enforcement perspective which made the content genuine

The book arrived very quickly and without damage. I read the book over the space of week and have found it invaluable. I have since lent the book to other people at work and they have inturn raved about the contents and the ease of reading of this book. My only wish is that I read this book five years ago when I first started as a Police Officer. This book is a MUST for all current serving Police, for any person wishing to become a Police Officer and any family members of a Police Officer.

Every member of the law enforcement community should read this book, including their spouse or significant other. Mental health issues & stress are areas of grave concern in the policing world and this book will help to mitigate problems officers may face down the road. Books arrived quickly and in excellent condition.

Had to read it for school, so I guess it was good enough

Buy this. And buy two more for someone you care about, whether they’re a cop or married to one. This book should be required reading in the academy and tested on to make rank. Get this book

I wish I had read this 28 years ago. I bought one for each of my officers. This guy nails it.

I'm currently a student attending college and going for the criminal justice field. This book was full of useful information that gives a ton of insight into what it takes to be an officer mentally and helped me cope with a lot of the stresses in my life. I would recommend this book for anyone whose either in a rut with their current job and or life, also to people who already are officers in today's society and has a family and or friends.

What you are feeling, you're not alone. Read this and feel relieved that those feelings about work are not far off from what others feel.

17 year officer, husband, father. This book should be MANDATORY reading for all rookies and their families. I enjoyed the read, as did my wife. Very beneficial!

I ordered this textbook for friends working in law enforcement. I have seen the unhealthy effects that can occur after years of law enforcement work, and believe that police officers are more susceptible to the cumulative effects of stress and strain at work than any other profession on the planet. If you are friends with an officer, buy them this book as a gift. They will appreciate it and so will you.

This book is a must have for all law enforcement and families. No matter how far in your career you are. Best to read for those whom are new LEOs. But if your LEO has been doing this job for years it really helps families understand the hyperviglance dump when they get home and why they become jaded.

If you are at the beginning of your journey, read this book for better understanding! So helpful

I have worked as a Deputy Sheriff in the Jail for almost 7 years. I was looking for a book to help my family understand some of the things I experience inside and outside of work. This book really hit the nail on the head! Even though the book is geared for road patrol officers, it still covers the emotions all officers can go through on and off duty. I highly recommend this book for any officer and their families. Also, for individuals thinking about a career in Law Enforcement.

Most officers never receive the type of training that is covered in this book. However, it should be mandatory for all officers. You may think you don't need this training, but you do!

Great, well-written book. Allows for some humor along with real world examples which highlight some important aspects relavent to the law enforcement career. It discusses some of the tough issues that tend to often be ignored within the law enforcement culture, and which can lead to health risks as well as relationship issues. Easy to read and necessary to read if you are in law enforcement (any branch really. . .street cop to correctional officer) or if you have a friend or family member in law enforcement.

Incredible book! I highly recommend it to anyone and everyone in law enforcement and also to their families and friends. Gilmartin's career is astounding, the information he gathered is great, and the way he writes makes it easy and enjoyable for anyone to read which is a feat indeed! Outstanding.

A great read for somebody in, or going into, law enforcement. It was required reading before I entered my academy to be a US Park Ranger and I've found it helpful in my job. Seems to repeat itself a couple of times, but still a good read,

I love this book. I wish I had read it at the beginning of my career. It would have saved my wife and family some tough times.

Read this, have your spouse (if applicable) read it, and then read it again. It completely changed the way I think about my hypervigilance and how to work toward solutions. Seriously, read this.

I been in the law enforcement field for almost ten years and I still found new information in this book.

I dont read books; however, this was recommended by a co-worker. I ordered the book and had it read within the first 24 hours of ownership. The book opened my eyes to several issues that several officers and their families have. The funny thing is is that while reading the book, I realized that I knew I had these issues, however, refused to accept them as a problem. Read the book with an open mind and you will see that you are not alone.

This helped greatly as to what is going inside the mind of many officers who struggle balancing their work and home life. It doesn't cover a lot of what to do but gives you an insight as to what they are mentally going thru. Each case is different and each department is different so no one solution will work. A combination of support, understanding and persistence is key.

Anyone who works with, lives with or knows anyone in law enforcement or the first responder world needs to read this book. I am a therapist and my first responder clients make sense to themselves after reading this book

It speak to the heart of Law Enforcement officers challenges with in the department and their personal lives. It makes them human. It allows the reader to have a greater respect for them and know the mental and physical toll the job has on their health.Being a Law Enforcement Sensitivity Trainer I use this book to point out to the officers how importan Emoitional Survival is to them and their job.And it is one of the books I suggest them to read.

The book is useful for understanding police culture and gives potentially useful advice on how to stay emotionally healthy doing police work. Much of the explanations in it are pseudoscience. They are based on notions that researchers in the area of police psychology have rejected. The author himself is considered somewgat of a kook in the scientific community of police psychologists.

I purchased this book as a requirement for a basic law enforcement course that I attended. It is okay to hear someone else's take on law enforcement however after going through the classes and actually being on ride alongs and seeing the calls I found that this book is in no way a good resource for emotional survival. I almost want to chuckle at the title of this book. Each person in law enforcement will have a completely different experience in this line of work. Reading this book was not helpful for me. If you are doing research on how someone dealt with their own personal experiences then I believe this will be helpful for that purpose.

This book is AMAZING!! It should be a mandatory read for all academy students, their spouse, and their family. Everyone in the law enforcement community needs to read this book...and reread it a few times a year for their entire career. Buy a few copies!

An excellent book. If you are in Law Enforcement or your husband/wife is, you need to read this book. It may help you understand why we in LE are the way we are and provides realistic solutions for maintaining a semi normal life. It's cheap but the insights are invaluable. Wish I had known about this 12 years ago

I was referred to give it a read. Highly recommended if in the profession.

My husband is a Deputy, this book opened his eyes to many issues that he didn't realize. He wants me to read it now.

I can see why it comes highly recommended. Very good book book.

Most people truly don't understand what it is like to be married to an officer. This book should be a must read for anyone who is in a relationship with an officer regardless if you are bf/gf, fiancee's, newly weds, or married. It helps open your eyes and think about things from a different perspective. It brings an understanding.

As a 17 year law enforcement officer I wish I had this book on my first week of the job. You go through so much physically and emotionally and you can't explain what is wrong with you. This book will save yourself and relationships. Excellent and easy read for both the cop and family.

If you are a cop you NEED to read this. If you are one of those type A, arrogant, know it all, and believe you are the cop of the year, this book may save your life... who are we kidding, you're to cool for school, right? Yeah well, this book has got your name written all over it. Get it! Read it!

Great book for anyone in law enforcement or family of law enforcement.

If you are an LEO spouse I cannot recommend this book enough. It changed my perspective completely. I first read it years ago and ordered this copy to read again now that we have a child. I wanted to read it again with that perspective. I recommend this to all LE members and their spouses.

This is a great book and has given me insight into why I act the way I do both on and off duty. I only wish I had read it 26 years ago when I entered this career path. Get it and read it! You won't regret and perhaps it will save you from some failed relationships. It will certainly help you and your family understand what happens to us (cops) over the course of our careers.

This book is a bit dull but it makes its point very clearly with examples to help you to understand. It is also a great read for families of law enforcement or those getting ready to go in. If you recognize the signs of emotional distress then you can work to prevent it.

A definite must read for anyone in law enforcement

Excellent book. I read it after it was recommended in a mandatory "warm and fuzzy" course I went to. I'll be giving it to my wife next and from this point forward plan to give a copy to each of my primary PPO's when they start.

Daughter is a rookie police officer who has found this book beneficial for her relationships with spouse and four children. Sh has already bought a second copy to give to a colleague.

We were able to identify my dog’s “chair” and break her from the emotional rollercoaster. She has started exercising more, maintaining relationships, identifying her work stress, and hyper vigilant behaviors.

I had to read this as part of the Sgt exam test , wish I read it when i started my career .. great stuff and helps keep your perspective about the department and your working relationships and personal ones. I would say its good for your family to read if you are in Law Enforcement , so they can understand you too.

Great book! It helps with my reach paper in what law enforcement officer's go through on a day to day on the job. And the loss of a member of the law enforcement. Emotional support of family members.